Why I Don't Blame Women For Shunning Bald Men.

[VicVanceIND]

saying 'hair transplant will nev give them what they want' is against the fact.

then my point is 'if I can't expect anyone to accept with my thining hair (or bladness) because if I was not bald I would have nev gone for less attractive woman if she does not have very good talent in her like a PhD degree'

 

It sounds crazy but this is what I think.

 

I myself find 'baldness' ugly when its on me.

 

I DON'T WAIT FOR ANYONE TO ACCEPT ME,I WANT TO MAKE MYSELF ABLE TO TELL PEOPLE THAT

'BUGGER OFF IF YOU CARE SO MUCH ABOUT MY LOOK,I DON'T NEED YOU'

 

I will transplant FIBRES and get rid off baldness if I had to,but I will nev let this nonsense thing trouble me.I show people what they deserve on the very moment they pass comments,if baldness is gonna make them talk against me,I will change it but I will nev give them a dman!! and I mean it.

 

(In the memory of beuatiful person in me)

[aim4hair]

one more point i'd like to say, if your hair is thinning or you have some bald spots, JUST SHAVE or BUZZ your hair, all of it.. unless you decide to have a hair transplant.

actually ppl who buzz their hair and let their goatee grow or have a dirty look with kinda short beard looks way cooler than people who live denial and who is balding and trying to hide or just keep hair on the sides and back while they got nothing on top.

also work on your body, your body matters and many hot women prefer to be with a bald man who got nice body rather than being with a fat man with a head full of hair.

so it's all about how do you take care of yourself, unfortunately many men when they start to bald they bring themselves down and think they ugly so they stop taking care of themselves, they stop dressing nice or working on their body and they keep whatever they have left from their hair long which makes them look like 10 years older than they are.

[Severn]

I know several guys who's luck with the women went up exponentially after they shaved it. Shaving works for some guys and not others. But there is a difference in perception from chicks upon seeing a guy with a clean shaven head and seeing him partially bald, or with a combover.

 

I also know one guy who has absolutely zero male pattern baldness but shaves it all off because he prefers the look.

[aim4hair]

I also know one guy who has absolutely zero male pattern baldness but shaves it all off because he prefers the look.

 

Actually i know many guys who go for that look, it's very common here specially for those who work out and have nice bodies.

I know buzzing your head while you have a nice hairline is better than buzzing it while you don't, but still if you would look nice buzzed with a hairline, most probably you would look nice buzzed with receding hairline, maybe not as good, but still good enough.

[alexdelarge]

That video was sad.

[jfables]

This:

 

If you are out of shape, bad dresser, bald, vulgar but are rich or famous you will not have a problem picking up women. If you are an average Joe and are bald the odds will be against you. Very few women find bald men attractive just like very few men find obese women attractive. As sad as it sounds this is reality. Of course there are many other factor to consider but in my opinion this is the norm. I have a few friends that dont look after themselves (out of shape) yet there tastes in women are very high. I always tell them how do you expect to find an attractive women when you dont take care of yourself. They all say the same thing they are looking for somebody that will appreicate them for them and not how they look. Yet they are only looking for an attractive women not caring how she is only how she looks. With baldness its quite simular they want women to look past there baldness yet they are usually not willing to compromisse what they are looking for.

Its a sad realtity but when you first meet someone there has to be some sort of attraction in order to click with them unfortunately for bald men most women dont find being bald attractive unless you are rich or famous.

[corvettester]

Had to smile on my way home tonight when I saw a gorgeous young woman greet her NW4/5 boyfriend with a big hug and a passionate kiss! I was so happy for him. Just goes to show...

 

 

Corvettester

[galtsglutch]

Interesting topic and funny video.

 

I don't blame the man for bailing on the poor lady. I would have done the same thing. I don't blame women for doing the same either.

 

At the end of the day, it's about personal preferences and who is to judge anyone for their personal preferences. I'm not shallow for wanting a beautiful woman (according to my standards), nor is a woman shallow for wanting a handsome man.

[gottitgood4me]

I relate this to meeting a great looking girl, only to find out later that she has a whole bunch of flabby skin on her belly. I just do not like that and it would have a effect on any further dating.

[ziggy00]

Some women will view balding as unattractive but I think its more of alot of men finding themselves unattractive which results in low self esteem and low confidence. This of course results in us thinking we have little to no chance of dating hot women.

 

This is a good point.

[SugarHighs]

I partially agree with the video as a social commentary - BUT - physical attraction *totally* depends on the guy in question, and in what way he is other wise attractive.

 

I second the ideas that some of the other guys here came up with, mainly:

 

a) Guys who are losing hair may think of themselves as unattractive, and won't take as much effort to take care of themselves, creating a downward spiral of unattractiveness.

 

b) The self-esteem hit that many guys take creates a cycle of unattractive behavior, that makes him far less a candidate for an attractive woman than purely his looks alone would dictate.

 

I do agree that in general hair is better than no hair - but you can't deny that some women exclusively like bald men. These women may be in the minority, however I can think of two of the hottest women I have ever known who were *especially* attracted to bald guys.

 

Also, the extent to which a guy with hair loss can improve his looks are vastly understated. I work out quite a bit, and I am sort of built like the "old spice guy." (except I'm not black, lol.)

 

I catch women out with their boyfriends - boyfriends much younger than me and with thicker hair - checking me out all the time. This is simply because I am more physically attractive than many men with thicker hair, because I work out, I take care of myself, and I am not unattractive.

 

If women are your focus, do not underestimate how much you can improve your looks provided you are not lazy.

 

@corvetester - Yes, NYC is ridiculous. Single men - even guys 40-45 - probably have it better than men anywhere else in the US.

Edited October 26, 2011 by SugarHighs

[seashanty]

I am married. My wife doesn't want me to get a hair system. But the fact is I hate the way I look with thinning hair. Because I hate it, it affects my confidence with everyone I meet, and I meet lots of people in my job. So I'm not looking to pick up women but I do like light flirting with them. It's just a fun way of interacting in the right circumstances. I'm going grey. I don't want to look like a sex god. I just want some hair covering my head. I go to the gym, I dress well, I am athletic build. If I could get my hair back by running 10 miles a day I would. I hate the powerlessness of hair loss.

[seashanty]

Speaking to women, and observing the world, it is apparent that the main thing that attracts women is CONFIDENCE. What they hate in men are low self esteem, whingeing, negativity. It explains the great mystery of life : why do some women love dorks? The mystery is solved by inserting 'CONFIDENT' dorks. There are many ways men can increase confidence. For me, looking at my balding head is not one of them.

[chrisdav]

I think when females say 'bald', they mean a person would no to moderate hairloss with hair shaven down to a length between grade 0-4.

 

This is different to a man with the term 'bald' with norwood level 7, who has little hair.

 

Any woman out of choice will prefer the 'option' of hair on a man.

[MrJobi]

It is really all about perception (for the most part). Confidence breeds confidence and unfortunately when we start losing our hair, we start losing our confidence. With that being said, there are plenty of confident bald men out there.

As far as dating goes. I think it is fair to say there are certain characteristics which are generally more appealing: being tall, having hair, nice teeth, nice clothes, social. The more you have, the more successful you will be hypothetically. Then of course, you need to take action.

At the end of the day, you need to optimize what you realistically can "control". Accept what you can't control and take action on what you can.

[lcsulla]

I personally think that the shaved head/ balding look is much more accepted today then when I was 22. You have stars and models that shave their heads and women think they are sexy as hell.

 

I wish I could have had the perspective I have now on hair. I wish I could just shave it, but a bad HT in the 90's prevents that.

 

Oh and I think being a bald women is much worse then being a bald male. There are so many of us and so few of them.

[ManinSpace]

That woman is fit as, hair or not! I could care less if she was shaved bald or put a wig on, that woman is fine. If anything, at least shed understand what its like, I could probably relax around her!

[BuddyTheElf]

Lets face it ... the first thing girls look at is status/money.

 

I've met short guys, bald guys, fat guys all with hot wives/girlfriends/mistresses. The one thing they all had in common was $$ & boss status. Having money makes you feel superior to other people. (especially in capitalistic cultures)... think Ron Burgundy

 

Hair does matter but I think most girls would rate it at the lower than money, status, height, weight, and well dressed.

[1978matt]

A work colleague of mine (aged late 20s) said to me that "oh don't worry, hairloss is nothing to worry about"

 

It's funny that in the 5 years I've known her, her last 5 boyfriends all had perfect hairlines except for one who had a shaved head (but obviously a good hairline)!

 

I'm afraid I'm not convinced!

[john7989]

I find this topic interesting. i'm 22 and i'm receding, i'm guaranteed to go bald, my uncle is, my dad is, but in all fairness it's never effected me with girls, i'm no Romeo but i do alright. Without sounding too big headed there's definitely worse looking lads out there than me.

 

I don't believe that baldness has much do with attraction, simple example, my dad is in his late 40's and he's widowed, he's going out now with a very good looking woman, she has men around that age flocking around her, and she chose to be with him. Also i used to live in Spain and went to college there. 1 day i had a bit of a party at my house, and a friend of mine came around, a spanish girl, stunning, actually did modelling part-time. We went out into the back and my dad was next door at a neighbours BBQ, and he was just talking to me over the fence and my friend the girl said to me 'who;s that?' and i was like 'my dad' and her reply was 'seriously he looks like someone who should be by boyfriend' bearing in mind this girl was about 20 and modelling part-time, she could basically get anyone, and she likes my Dad, who's bald as a cueball, thats why i have doubts that baldness really matters that much. And she wasn't the only friend of mine who's a girl who fancies my dad. Like my ex-girlfriend for example always said to me 'i prefer you so much more with really short hair' and always wanted me to keep it short, she didn't like all that long styled type stuff. In case you're wondering the fact i'm receeding isn't the reason why we split up, but she was a pretty lass, and like i say i'm in my early 20's now, socialise mainly with girls who are sort of early 20's too and i've never really struggled massively, don't get me wrong i've had a few girls comment on it and have picked up on the fact i'm receding and if you just take it and make a bit of fun of it and not mind they love it. 90% of it is to do with confidence like a lot of people on here have said, and i think the problem is that a lot of men automatically feel inferior when they lose their hair and then lose all their confidence, and that is what females find unattractive.

 

1 thing i have noticed though, like i go to the gym, with 2 mates from work one is mid 20's receding the other is late 20's and basically bald, but in the gym i'd say 85% of the men at my gym are bald or on the way, i don't know if thats like a subconscious thing in balding men to make up for it by making themselves more muscular and imposing. Just something to ponder there. Like i say when you think of baldness it is quite often associated with hooliganism too and fighters, lots of boxers and fighters are bald or shave their heads, so this makes you think women must think it does make men more masculine and attractive. Look at the bald examples women have mentioned here, Jason Statham, Vin Diesel etc always play the role of 'the hard nut' of you like which a lot of women seem to dig. Like i say a good head of hair can mean a pretty boy, which some women find a little bit effeminate. I don't think its all bad being a man and being bald. Like i say it depends how you carry it, confidence is a massive thing to women no matter what you look like. I have a mate who is about 5'7 6 stone wet through, has a big nose, but thinks he's Gods gift, and that works with so many women, he gets about a lot, and he's nothing much to look at.

 

Anyway in conclusion after all that, my opinion is that its just confidence. I know loads of girls in their early 20's who find james gandolfini attractive as Tony Soprano, and even a few like Karl Pilkington.

[Bobilero]

Simple facts are some guys can rock the look in which they look better with it , i.e The Rock and Jason Statham. Other guys dont really have the head shape and look to pull it off successfully.

 

Overall i dont think its as crucial as people make out. Chicks especially as they get a bit older dosent overly bother them. What is crucial is the confidence element or lack of from guys affected by MPB.

 

If they're not confident in how they look act and feel their dead in the water with the chicks. Confidence is Key !

[TommyLucchese]

I think SOME girls don't like the bald look, but like others have said, mainly it's the lack of confidence of the bald/ing man that turns them off.

[scar5]

All baldies know that a good beanie or hat changes the way women glance at them in the mall, the 7/11 or the supermarket. Isn't that enough. Why do we have to rationalize it? Meh...I know ..we have to even so..

I have hooked up with girls on the street in three modes.

 

1) With hair grown out and the HT illusion looking good. (Kinda NW2 fast-back)

2) Hair buzzed off the illusion entirely shattered. (look like a NW4 diffuse)

3) A beanie or hat that really suits my face shape/ skin tone etc. (Could be a NW1)

 

and yet to try,

4) An SMP buzzed head. (.6mm) Kind of NW2ish-3, which look blue in certain light.

 

The best is using 3) then meeting up on 'the date' the 1)..you can see their relief that I was not "covering up." Little do they know.lol

 

The worst is going from 3) to 2). All this stuff about older women don't care is really deceiving. So they don't care? Then what DO these woman care about? Even more of a worry, I say.

 

2) Makes me feel the best, if I succeed, cause I think I am 'rocking the buzz'

[MrJobi]

There are no rules - plenty of hot women with bald , no so good looking men ( and they are not rich).

 

Work on the things you CAN control and learn how to date and take control !! Best thing I did is to learn how to be a man - this is the number one complaint of women

 

This totally changed my dating life and opened a mindset I never knew exisited. This doesn't mean every woman loves me as every woman will not like you regardless of who you are. What it does mean is allowing yourself to be successful when opportunity knocks and the last time I checked, there are millions of single women out there!

 

That said, appearance does matter in most cases so control the controllables

 

- weight

- clothes

- humor

- attitude

- TAKING ACTION!!!

[Mountinvan]

I can pretend to be rich so at least there is some hope. Come on guys women aren't that superficial. I know they could care less if you are out of shape,a bad dresser, or bald, but vulgar usually doesn't cut it. Corvettester doesn't suffer from any of those human frailties. He can even give Justin Bieber a run for his money (and he's got lots of hair and lots of $$$---a dynamite combo).