Senior Member Paulygon Posted March 22, 2014 Senior Member Share Posted March 22, 2014 I'm interested in taking a survey of people who had HT's performed. When do you tell a significant other that you have had a hair transplant? I feel like it would be a very unattractive thing to tell a woman. Is it best to mention it right away (in the dating phase) or after you are committed/exclusive? :confused: Paulygon is a former patient of Dr. Parsa Mohebi My regimen includes: HT #1 2710 grafts at Parsa Mohebi Hair Restoration in Los Angeles in 2012 Rogaine foam 2x daily, since 2012 (stopped ~10/2015) Finasteride 1.25mg daily, since 2012 (stopped ~12/2015) HT #2 3238 grafts at Parsa Mohebi Hair Restoration in Los Angeles in Jun. 2016 Started Rogaine and Propecia in July. 2016 after being off of them for about a year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member hsrp10 Posted March 22, 2014 Senior Member Share Posted March 22, 2014 I would only tell them if you're going to get married or you have a strong desire to let them know. Your cover story is the meds helped you regrow which is partially true anyway go dense or go home Unbiased advice and opinions based on 25 plus years of researching and actual experience with hair loss, hair restoration via both FUT & FUE, SMP, scalp issues including scalp eczema & seborrheic dermatitis and many others HSRP10's favorite FUT surgeons: *Dr. Konior, *Dr Hasson, Dr. Rahal HSRP10's favorite FUE surgeons: *Dr. Konior, *Dr. Bisanga, Dr. Erdogan, Dr. Couto (*indicates actual experience with doctor) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member Rootz Posted March 22, 2014 Senior Member Share Posted March 22, 2014 For casual dating, heck no. Never bring it up! As long as I had the HT done before meeting the person, I would never speak of it. Now if I was dating someone while getting a HT, coming clean would probably be unavoidable unless procedure was really small. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member KO Posted March 22, 2014 Senior Member Share Posted March 22, 2014 Or better yet, own it and proudly tell people? 3382 FUE Lupanzula http://www.hairrestorationnetwork.com/eve/185463-3382-grafts-lupanzula.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abcd0000 Posted March 22, 2014 Share Posted March 22, 2014 Or better yet, own it and proudly tell people? That won't work as desired I'm afraid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member Garageland Posted March 22, 2014 Senior Member Share Posted March 22, 2014 I have good experience with this considering I had my first transplant done 18 years ago. My policy has been to tell if the relationship is going somewhere not in the casual dating stages. In experience with the girls I have told they have really not been bothered by it in the slightest. Most women have their own insecurities and would like to change some part of them and in general are far more accepting than you may think. I used to make a big deal about it when I told them as I built it up to be a big deal but from experience it really is not. --- Former patient and representative for Hasson & Wong. Dr. Victor Hasson and Dr. Jerry Wong are esteemed members of the Coalition of Independent Hair Restoration Physicians. My opinions are my own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of Hasson & Wong. My Hair Loss Website - Hair Transplant with Dr. Hasson Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member Since21 Posted March 22, 2014 Senior Member Share Posted March 22, 2014 As Chris Rock said, all women are living a lie with make-up and hair extensions, etc. Of course, he's much funnier about it. And Garageland is right. Women all have their own insecurities. Problem is, they don't like to see that in men. So if I didn't really know the woman and just met her, it might be a while before I told her, depending on our comfort and intimacy level. I've been on hiatus for the past 6 months while going through my first HT and there are several women I was seeing casually before I had it. I've been keeping them at bay when they say they want to see me - tell them I'm busy - so I'm interested in seeing their reaction once we do meet up. Unfortunately, women don't like to be kept waiting for too long. This has been one of the hardest parts of the journey for me. 3,425 FUT grafts with Dr Raymond Konior - Nov 2013 1,600 FUE grafts with Dr Raymond Konior - Dec 2018 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Glenn Charles Posted March 23, 2014 Share Posted March 23, 2014 I always thought that when casually dating someone you should be focusing on her not yourself. If things are getting more serious then you can let them know. It should not change the way they feel about you and if it does maybe they are not the right person for you. Dr. Glenn Charles is a member of the Coalition of Independent Hair Restoration Physicians Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member RolloTomasi Posted March 23, 2014 Regular Member Share Posted March 23, 2014 Personally, I can't see any reason why a hair transplant would come up in a conversation unless you'd had a procedure carried out by a hack. I mean, would she tell you if she'd had, say, an eye tuck or botox? In any case, if you did decide to tell her and she had an issue with it, you'd need to be asking yourself if she's the sort of women you'd want to go much further than a shag with anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coutinhoscurlyhair Posted March 23, 2014 Share Posted March 23, 2014 I recall being very anxious about telling my other half. I remember saying I had something to tell her, and she got all worried and when I said she wasn't bothered at all. She thought I was gonna say something terrible. I guess it's more down to who the girl/boy is. If they're bothered, they aren't worth it!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Cowhorns Posted March 23, 2014 Regular Member Share Posted March 23, 2014 Interesting post. Turning it around, would you want a girl to tell you if she had got a HT? Would it change the way you felt about her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Cowhorns Posted March 23, 2014 Regular Member Share Posted March 23, 2014 Sorry Paulygone. It just occurred to me with the question I posed above I may of "hiyjacked" your post and moved away from the question you are asking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member JimmyNeutron Posted March 23, 2014 Senior Member Share Posted March 23, 2014 I see no reason for such a thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member 1978matt Posted March 23, 2014 Senior Member Share Posted March 23, 2014 The time to tell them is on your 10/20th wedding anniversary when you're contemplating that second session. 4,312 FUT grafts (7,676 hairs) with Ray Konior, MD - August 2013 1,145 FUE grafts (3,152 hairs) with Ray Konior, MD - August 2018 763 FUE grafts (2,094 hairs) with Ray Konior, MD - January 2020 Proscar 1.25mg every 3rd day Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member Paulygon Posted March 23, 2014 Author Senior Member Share Posted March 23, 2014 These were all excellent responses. Thank you so much!! You've all given me some good stuff to think about.. I'll report back later.. I have a date tonight and feel a little more comfortable in my skin after reading your responses.. much appreciated Paulygon is a former patient of Dr. Parsa Mohebi My regimen includes: HT #1 2710 grafts at Parsa Mohebi Hair Restoration in Los Angeles in 2012 Rogaine foam 2x daily, since 2012 (stopped ~10/2015) Finasteride 1.25mg daily, since 2012 (stopped ~12/2015) HT #2 3238 grafts at Parsa Mohebi Hair Restoration in Los Angeles in Jun. 2016 Started Rogaine and Propecia in July. 2016 after being off of them for about a year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member Paulygon Posted March 25, 2014 Author Senior Member Share Posted March 25, 2014 I agree with the responses that side with not disclosing during casual dating phases (hsrp, rootz, dr charles, coutin, rollo, etc., thanks guys). Historically, I've been too honest with women, too a disadvantage (this is what my friends tell me) and now I realize there is no reason to volunteer such information (that I've had HT). The dating game out there is pretty vicious already .. many people don't even disclose their honest intentions.. this sex & the city generation has women taking revenge for all the guys that hurt them and there are many playerettes out there.. Ya, I see no reason to bring this up during the casual dating phase. Just don't! Like hsrp said, it is something to talk about with the person you intend to marry.. I did have a (1st) date last night, and the thought of talking about HT did not even enter my mind.. it was cool because I had read all your responses before going to the date and during the date I was quite comfortable in my own skin; I think about what insecurities the girl has, and it is kind of cool to realize that women have so many of their own insecurities that a simple HT for a guy is probably not a big deal.. Great perspective! Since21, regarding the girls you've been keeping at bay while you go through your HT procedure.. my guess would be that once you meet up with them again, they will feel that you look good/younger/more attractive (due to a combination of hair and added confidence) but probably will not poinpoint that you have "more hair" or that you have had a procedure.. this is just a guess.. I had those reactions from ladies and it was interesting beause: to me, it was so obvious that I had hair where there was none before.. to the girls, they couldn't put their finger on what was different about me. Regarding the question posed by nick72, : would you want a girl to tell you if she had got a HT? Would it change the way you felt about her? Good question. I have met a girl that had a HT. Last October I volunteered to be a Live Patient for Dr. Mohebi at the ISHRS 2013 conference in San Francisco. There was a female Live Patient for another doctor who had very good HT results (compared to her BEFORE pictures which were posted on the whiteboard next to her seat). She was actually quite attractive.-- and I was avoiding talking to her because of my own insecurities. My BEFORE pictures were posted next to my seat, and I did not want an attractive woman to see those and associate them with me! I had never told an attractive woman that I had gotten an HT procedure and this would be the first!) Anyway, I finally did meet her and it was altogether a very weird interaction.. we both seemed quite uncomfortable talking to each other (with our BEFORE pictures posted next to each of our seats). I am curious how you guys feel about nick's question: would you want a girl to tell you if she had got a HT? Would it change the way you felt about her? Paulygon is a former patient of Dr. Parsa Mohebi My regimen includes: HT #1 2710 grafts at Parsa Mohebi Hair Restoration in Los Angeles in 2012 Rogaine foam 2x daily, since 2012 (stopped ~10/2015) Finasteride 1.25mg daily, since 2012 (stopped ~12/2015) HT #2 3238 grafts at Parsa Mohebi Hair Restoration in Los Angeles in Jun. 2016 Started Rogaine and Propecia in July. 2016 after being off of them for about a year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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