You have sound advice (I feel) in here, no body is going to say what you want to hear.
You don't want to buzz it, because it will look bad
You don't want get "another ht" because your worried aboout future loss
You don't want to "lazer" the grafts because of scaring
You don't want to just remove the grafts... not sure why
You don't want to wait and you don't want to move forward.
The only thing you haven't said, is what you really want what you really really want.. IT SOUNDS, like you want "another HT".. you keep coming back to wanting to improve your hair.
so Mr. Future Doc, was correct, .
or challange yourself, and try out a hair piece. It will give you the exactly kind of hair and look you want.