Please be kind-this is my first post.
I would like some advice from the group here about my situation. I feel like I am mentally "stuck" and cannot decide which way to go r.e. HT surgery or not.
I am 41 and started losing my hair when I was 19. I always had very fine hair, so when I started to lose my hair it became cosmetically apparent very quickly. I am a redhead with straight hair.
I have been using Rogaine since I started to lose my hair at 19 and feel like it has definitely helped me slow my progression quite a bit. My brother started losing his hair at the same age as me and he rapidly progressed to total baldness on top-he never used Rogaine. I used Propecia twice: once in my twenties for about a year or two but was not sure I got results and again in my late thirties. The second time I used Propecia I definitely thought it was helping but I started to get some unwanted side effects and stopped. The decision to stop was tough as the regrowth was quite real. The side effects went away but I am now very reluctant to use Propecia again.
I now have quite significant hair loss: very thin on the front and on top: you can see my whole scalp on top. I have kept my hair very short (but not truly buzzed) for many years, and I go through periods where I am fine with my hair loss and other periods where it bothers me almost to the point of distraction. During these times I consider seeing a surgeon about HT, but I am kind of scarred by a bad prior experience.
Over a decade ago I went to a surgeon and had a consultation about a HT procedure. The surgeon, who is very famous, gave me an incredibly cursory evaluation, failed to notice that I had significant seborrheic dermatitis on my scalp, and put tremendous pressure on me to have a procedure right away. I left the office shaken and never followed up.
I am (fortunately) very healthy, have a good job, a loving wife and children, and can afford surgery if I went that route. I am extremely frightened of getting a bad outcome from HT surgery. I.e. I am not in love with how my hair looks but would be profoundly upset if I had a bad outcome i.e. something that looked very artificial, bad scars, etc. I am also concerned that I may need several procedures to get a really good outcome. In all fairness I am not looking for magic; I would be happy with some modest coverage in the front and at the crown: I know I will never look the way I did when I was 17 years old.
So, here are my questions:
Should I just go the last step and get a super short buzz cut or should I see another HT surgeon for another evaluation?
Should I get the buzz cut and then see how that feels for a few months before considering seeing at HT surgeon?
Is my ongoing seborrheic dermatitis a roadblock for a HT procedure?
Should I be trying anything else besides Rogaine?
Thanks!
Louis