It would only be beneficial to meet Spex in person as even though he represents Dr Feller and Dr Lindsey, his gives honest, unbiased advice,knowledge is very broad, and you will definitely feel rejuvenated to an extent just after a meet with him as his enthusiasm will rub off on you,making you feel more positive and this will set you in the right direction.
Initially, i was a little apprehensive flying to New York as i am not keen on flying long distances but 6-8 hours is not that far, and you will have enough entertainment on the flight to keep you occupied.
Do you want to hide it from your family because they disapprove?