Senior Member thanatopsis_awry Posted December 8, 2008 Senior Member Share Posted December 8, 2008 Possibly, this isn't a topic that typically goes here, but it's really gnawing at me and I'm def seeking as many words of wisdom as possible. I've always felt that hairloss has ties -- even if it's just irrational and emotional -- to our perceived virility. I pretty much have a totally suiting head of hair now -- an attribute, dare I say. However, I still feel myself to be a bald guy in a certain respect.....I mean, if I didn't feel some strong connection I probably wouldn't still be spending solid chunks of time on the forum. Anyways, pre-MPB if I had a problem with arousal it was too a question of too much arousal at the wrong times. Post-MPB, the opposite is suddenly coming to my suspicion. I recently started seeing a quintessentially amazing girl; like, truly....anyways, the two times things have "progressed" I had a terribly difficult time; the first had some booze involved so I guess that's just w/e. But, the 2nd there was total sobriety involved. I'm 23. Have I somehow been irreparably scarred by MPB and am psychosomatically lacking virility???? Or, is it a def possibility that it's simply nerves? I was/am quite nervous about it, mainly because I actually like the girl in question, and two my lack of experience. It just boggles my mind that I'm having *this* problem.....I'm not sure what direction to take, but I worry that if a prob exists it will eventually get compounded over time by a mental-blockade.... ----------- *A Follicles Dying Wish To Clinics* 1 top-down, 1 portrait, 1 side-shot, 1 hairline....4 photos. No flash. Follicles have asked for centuries, in ten languages, as many times so as to confuse a mathematician. Enough is enough! Give me documentation or give me death! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member thanatopsis_awry Posted December 8, 2008 Author Senior Member Share Posted December 8, 2008 Possibly, this isn't a topic that typically goes here, but it's really gnawing at me and I'm def seeking as many words of wisdom as possible. I've always felt that hairloss has ties -- even if it's just irrational and emotional -- to our perceived virility. I pretty much have a totally suiting head of hair now -- an attribute, dare I say. However, I still feel myself to be a bald guy in a certain respect.....I mean, if I didn't feel some strong connection I probably wouldn't still be spending solid chunks of time on the forum. Anyways, pre-MPB if I had a problem with arousal it was too a question of too much arousal at the wrong times. Post-MPB, the opposite is suddenly coming to my suspicion. I recently started seeing a quintessentially amazing girl; like, truly....anyways, the two times things have "progressed" I had a terribly difficult time; the first had some booze involved so I guess that's just w/e. But, the 2nd there was total sobriety involved. I'm 23. Have I somehow been irreparably scarred by MPB and am psychosomatically lacking virility???? Or, is it a def possibility that it's simply nerves? I was/am quite nervous about it, mainly because I actually like the girl in question, and two my lack of experience. It just boggles my mind that I'm having *this* problem.....I'm not sure what direction to take, but I worry that if a prob exists it will eventually get compounded over time by a mental-blockade.... ----------- *A Follicles Dying Wish To Clinics* 1 top-down, 1 portrait, 1 side-shot, 1 hairline....4 photos. No flash. Follicles have asked for centuries, in ten languages, as many times so as to confuse a mathematician. Enough is enough! Give me documentation or give me death! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member youngsuccess Posted December 9, 2008 Senior Member Share Posted December 9, 2008 Were'nt you experiencing Propecia sides at one point? Could this be the issue again? Maybe, maybe not? Can you get it up when you masturbate? If so, that might suggest it's just some kind of performance anxiety when you're actually with a girl. If it's not due to actual side effects, and it's just a mental thing, I bet if you came clean to her about your struggle with MPB it would alleviate some of the pressure/self-loathing/paranoia that might be suppressing your libido. ------- All opinions are my own and my advice should not constitute as medical advice. View my My Hair Loss Website Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member hairthere Posted December 9, 2008 Senior Member Share Posted December 9, 2008 do you watch any porn? if not start doing so. you might need to just surround yourself with sexual energy/images/thoughts. if your gal is cool with it then view together. oh, i also agree with youngsuccess--it could be the meds. I am the owner/operator of AHEAD INK a Scalp Micropigmentation Company in Fort Lee, New Jersey. www.aheadink.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raphael84 Posted December 9, 2008 Share Posted December 9, 2008 Unless you have known problems previously, I wouldnt overly worry regarding side-effects from the meds. If your good with the whole solo situation that indicates the positive. Its simply nerves due to your attraction to this chick. Young success, Im sorry man but that has to be the worst advice ever. As a 23 yr old with a HT background, just meeting a girl your into. Explaining arousel problems due to the HT could be devastating. Without even knowing the girl so well, your very private surgery, may no longer be particularly private if you know what I mean. Thanatopsis, youll be fine me man!!! Patient Advisor for Dr. Bisanga - BHR Clinic ian@bhrclinic.com - BHR YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcH4PY1OxoYFwSDKzAkZRww I am not a medical professional and my words should not be taken as medical advice. All opinions and views shared are my own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member thanatopsis_awry Posted December 9, 2008 Author Senior Member Share Posted December 9, 2008 Thx for the words and tips guys! Def appreciated.....and I'm going to take it all into account and go from there...could be the fin acting up, combined w/ nerves, for sure....I think it very well could just be the latter now...thx again! ----------- *A Follicles Dying Wish To Clinics* 1 top-down, 1 portrait, 1 side-shot, 1 hairline....4 photos. No flash. Follicles have asked for centuries, in ten languages, as many times so as to confuse a mathematician. Enough is enough! Give me documentation or give me death! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Vasilius Posted December 9, 2008 Regular Member Share Posted December 9, 2008 Thanatopsis, I concur with Raphael on this completely. Like I said in the PM, it's most likely nerves and that's a completely normal thing we all deal with. The more a guy is into a girl, the more nervous he is too at first, but the sex is that much better too! As for telling her about your HT, there may come a time later on in your relationship for that kind of disclosure, and once you've been together a while she might be endeared by your sharing that info, but play those cards to your chest for now brother. There's nothing to be ashamed of in getting a HT, I've had 2, but like Raph said it's a private matter that other people don't always understand. -Vasilius Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member Chuckisduck Posted December 10, 2008 Senior Member Share Posted December 10, 2008 I third it if you feel the jitters when you started it. Its kept me from being tip top before. My Hair Loss Blog - Hair Transplant with Dr. Keene Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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