Jim,
I understand your frustration, i talk to and help people in tough situation in reagrds to seeking employment in a field that they will LOVE. My advice choose a job you love and if you cannot find one, look into going back to school, it's a great time to do that for many! In regards to your hair and a HT, TAKE YOUR TIME! Research and then research more, if it takes you 1-2 years thats ok! Best of luck!