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  1. Ej, Honestly, I, myself, would have no issue with standing behind what I say. Unfortunately, my wife wants me to let go and move on. Are my posts taken the wrong way sometimes? definitely. That is why I would rather communicate via in person or through the phone. I think the reason this issue with me and the doc escalated to this point was because of this fact. Anyway, DO I THINK THE DOC DRUGGED ME TO SIGN A WAIVER? NO I want to be clear to the forum. when I said " I would not say he drugged me, but that is exactly what happened to me" I was referring to the fact that while sitting at his desk on the day of the surgery I was given a waiver to sign, and yes I was also given a Valium to relax me before the procedure. My point is that I was unhappy with being given the waiver after I was given a form saying my deposit was non refundable weeks earlier. So, for the record I never accussed the doc of drugging me that is why I said" I would'nt call it drugging" I was stateing the fact that the waiver was not given to me until the day of surgery, but the non refunable policy was given to me weeks earlier===that is an undeniable fact. And, I think it is wrong. As far as my being unhappy with my results, I won't back off of that with the threat of any lawsuit. I Just want to be 100 percent clear. And, as far as taking positive action. I have no idea what to do. That is why the scar became such a big issue. Not because I was nit picking but, because after 2 surgeries one with Feller and one previous, and the fact that I was not happy with either, I couldn't imagine going through it a third time. Thus, I just wanted to buzz down. This is why the scar became an issue. Ej, If you truly wish me the best, don't even respond to this post. I frankly posted to clear up the drug issue that was misunderstood. As far as anything else I ever posted I don't think it could be misunderstood. I spoke of my experiences and did not want anyone else to walk into a surgery with the expectations that I had (which I think happens alot more than I think) But, I think the best piece of advice, ironically, that I have gotten from this forum is not about fixing my situation, but moving on and dealing with it.
  2. It was for readers like Bill that I posted my same experience time and time again. I think it is obvious from his post what my true intent is and was.
  3. Bill, My point in that post is that while I was given a Valium the day of the surgery, it was not given to me to drug me but to relax me-- That was the point that I was trying to make. If that is taken any other way I apologize, but, the fact that you don't sign the waiver until the day of surgery is a big concern of mine. As far as trying to contact the doc, I called him from my cell atleast 9 times in a 2 week period, I purposely did that so I have a record. In reference, to the fact that I only post the bad, I disagree. I've posted numerous times that while the situation in the reciepent area has improved, it is not what I expected. That is why I continiously give people the option to come see the results for themselves. But, the scar is so much worse that it has taken away my option to buzz cut my head without the scar being extremely noticable. Finally, I admit I do make other threads about me. That is because I can only contribute as to my experiences and opinions of my experiences--that is exactly what protects me from libel and slander. Anything I ever said was my experience from my perception. If I ever was misunderstood, LET ME BE CLEAR, IT WAS NEVER DONE IN A MALICIOUS INTENT TO SLANDER THE DOC, BUT TO SHARE MY HONEST OPINIONS AND EXPERIENCES. that is why I said I would not consider being "drugged" because I feel I share the facts as they happened to me. Besides, if you honestly thought that anything that I posted was done for any reason than to share my honest experieces with members of this forum, Would you not be as guilty as I for not editing it? You've edited posts previously, haven't you? Honestly, Bill, I'm going to make one last phone call to the doc to tell him he wins, if he don't want me posting my experience with him, I won't. While I'm quite sure he could ever convince a trier of fact that my posts were "intentionally" malicious, I quite frankly don't have the time or resources to defend such a silly accusation.
  4. Bill, I am extremely satisfied that the Doc is initiating a lawsuit against me. As he should know by now that the truth is an "absoulute defense" to libel and slander. There is nothing I said in any of my posts that is not true. Bill, while I do agree that I constantly post negative posts about the doc. Wouldn't that make sense if I had a negative experience with him? you have no issue with people such as drrj constantly posting positive results. I think at the end of the day, you need to ask yourself, why am I unhappy? You said it yourself that communication with the doc is extremely difficult. As far as the drugging, my point is that giving someone one valium to relax them prior to surgery was not done to alter their thinking-- I agree with that. But, not giving them the waiver form until the day of surgery is my issue there. Well, I guess all of these issues will come to light in the near future. From your warnings time and time again, I suspect I will not be welcome to post my outcome with the doc on this site. So be it. As I said numerous times, I am only trying to give people information that I was not privy to before I made the plunge with a HT, I think I'm seeing why? If your not happy with your results and the post op communication you receive from your doc, then you are bombarded with threats of lawsuits and being silenced on this forum. If you have not noticed, I've been posting less and less because I have come to the realization that I need to cope with my situation. But, not allowing me to post from time to time about my experience even if I'm being redundant is unfair to posters who may be visiting this site for the first time. As you know, I've offered people to see the results for themselves time and time again so they can judge for themselves not from pics or bias from you, me, or the doc. With that said, I have no desire to waste any more of my time here anyway-- my opinion is obviously not welcomed. My intent has been clear-- I'm not happy with my result from the doc, and yes, I do want people to know that. That is not libel or slander-- get out your law books.
  5. I would not consider giving someone a Valium before signing paperwork drugging them; however, this is exactly what happened in my experience with Dr. Feller. TO BE PERFECTLY CLEAR, you are not told about the fact that results are not guarenteed until the day of surgery. there is no excuse for that, that is a shameless policy, and I find it hard to believe that it only happened in these two cases. Anyway, as I've said in the past, if Dr. Feller really only has unhappy patients so rarely, why does he not do more to accomadate them? I can attest that getting in touch with the doc was virtually impossible. He would only respond via e-mail. In summary, I am extremely unsatisfied with the doc's post op care, and horrified with my scar left from the doc. I really feel this is something he should have fixed at "his expense" not mine. Due to the fact that after he bashed my first surgeon, he left a donor scar that makes my first surgeon's look like Picasso did it. While he did do a better job with my receipent area, it is still detectable in most lights, and does not look half as good as it does in pics. Sorry, to his following---hairthere, Spex, Bill, but these are the facts in my case. I've offered people numerous times to come see the results for themselves in person, but seem to get bashed everytime I do so. I'M EXTREMELY SORRY FOR YOUR SITUATION, I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL
  6. Hey Moro I'm extremely sorry for your situation. I've been looking for an answer to conceal my scar also. As far as scar revision, I've had a tricho-closure on my second Ht which was done by Dr. Feller who is suppossed to be one of the best, and the whole left side of my scar is very similar to yours. So, I do not think that I would go that route. As far as the tattoo, I'm looking for answers on that one myself. After my experience with Ht's I'm very timid to do anything without seeing results, and unfortunately, I've made a few phone calls and this is not as easy as you would thing to see some results. I've even asked one micropigmentation artist if I could pay for an hour of her time and do a test strip, she declined. So for now, I'm lost. I'm actually thinking of just doing a regular tat over my scar, but I actually have two scars. In short, I know exactly how you feel, and I'll pray that you find some answers in the near future.
  7. I'm sorry to say, but I am extremely unhappy with my repair from Dr. Feller. While he did make my first ht less noticible in certain lights, it is still obvious in every day situations. You are more than welcome to come see the results for your self--just pm me and I will contact you. I live in the Philadelphia area. Also, my scar from my procedure with Dr. Feller is alot worse than my original. This may be due to phisiology, but the fact that I've consulted with other docs that are confident that it can be repaired leaves me skeptical. Finally, the issue that takes me over the top with Dr. Feller is the way he is "bothered" with my concerns. He met with me for a post op where I sincerely feel his only intent was to take pics that were favorable to him. As I mentioned numerous times before, my ht looks extremely better in pics. Other than that I could not get him on the phone. I've tried atleast 10 times. I sincerely feel he should have took a little more resposibility for my scar. Either through Fue grafts into it or a scar revision especially since he was so adament that my repair was an "easy fix". I know I'll be attacked for this post, but so be it. I cannot lie for the sake of being liked by members of this community. No matter how you look at it, the patient takes all the risk in the procedure. The doc gets paid regardless. Would it not be a more honest system if the Doc took some of the risk? After all he is the professional with the years of experience. If a doc has no idea of how a result will turn out, is he not in the wrong profession? I understand there are alot of variables, but if cases of scar stretching are rare, maybe they should be priced into the procedure. If they are rare, the premium would be minimal; however, if they are not as rare as put forth by the docs, maybe Ht's are not what they claim. I just sincerely feel that I was taken advantage of from the Doc. That is my honest opinion. I think he is extremely inconsiderate, but he put on an act when I was in his office.
  8. I've had a repair with Feller, and a first procedure performed by someone else. I can show you my results if your willing to drive an hour and a half to the Philadelphia area. If so, PM me your e mail and we'll make arrangements.
  9. Hey hairthere, To be honest, I'm not looking for sympathy. I just dont want people thinking of a ht to base their decision on pics (especially of mine). When you say unless my hair looks "drastically different", I guess I can't answer that because I don't know your definition of drastic. But, I can say that in pics my hair looks fantastic, but in person, it just does not look right. Does everyone know that I had a ht? probably not, but something just is not right to people that don't understand ht's. If anyone knows anything about ht's, then it is clear that I had one. I guess the reason that I'm so unhappy is because I started down this path to look a little better, and not to look artificial. Now, while Dr. Feller did not put me in this position because he did not perform my first ht, I feel that he overpromised with results and his repair was average at best. And, I just feel that my results are being exaggerated in his pics which I feel is very misleading to people that are considering a ht or a ht repair. Hey if guys like drrj can post about how happy they are with their results time and time again, can't I post that I'm unhappy with my repair?
  10. spex, you are mighty defensive. You say the only fair way to evaluate feller's repair is to show my post op state--- i disagree. I want people to see the difference between the pictures that you post and my results in person. If my hair looks as good as the pics you and the doc post, you should be paying people's airfare to come see my results. Unfortunately, for me, they don't. As far as you not getting paid for posting--are you serious? That is like saying wal-mart does not get paid for commercials. It is a mean to an end regarding feller doing my repair-- yeah, i pretty much assumed that ship sailed when he did not return my phone calls for over a month now. I sincerely believe at this point that the only reason he saw me for a post op was to take his pictures at his preferred angles. Could i be wrong? Maybe, but that is how i sincerely feel at this point. I'm just extremely angry that i paid the doc over 8,ooo dollars and the only service i get from him is my actual surgery and a 1 hour post- op. Oh well, i guess that's business. AND YOU HAVE THE AUDACITY TO SAY I SHOULD HAVE DISCUSSED THIS MATTER PRIVATELY WITH THE DOC. I TRIED FOR MONTHS TO LOOK AT THINGS FROM THE DOC'S PERSPECTIVE, BUT AT THIS POINT, I THINK THE WAY THE DOC HANDELED MY CASE WAS DISGUSTING. THAT IS HOW I FEEL. AS I ALWAYS SAY, MY AGENDA COMING IN TO ALL OF THIS WAS NOT TO BE POSTING ON A HT FORUM, BUT WHILE THE DOC DID NOT DO MY FIRST SURGERY, HE WAS ADAMENT THAT I WAS AN EASY FIX, I WOULD NOT HAVE VENTURED INTO A SECOND PROCEDURE IF I WAS NOT SOLD ON AN EASY REPAIR. WHILE THE DOC'S RECIPENT AREA LOOKS BETTER THAN MY FIRST DOC'S WORK, I'M STILL IN A SITUATION WHERE I LOOK UNNATURAL. DOES IT REALLY MATTER THAT I DON'T LOOK AS UNNATURAL. EITHER WAY, I'M STILL NOT OUT OF THE TUNNEL FROM MY FIRST HT, AND I'M STILL LOOKING FOR OPTION'S SUCH AS BUZZING MY HEAD. THAT IS WHERE I'M AT.
  11. Absoulutely, I actually look forward to it. As I said in the past, I'm not bashing Feller in any way. I'm just stateing my honest opinion of my finished result. Most of my friends share in my assesment. I have a few friends that are receding and not one of then were interested in going the route I went. Usually if someone sees something that their pleased with and it would suit their needs, they will inquire; however, none of my receding friends have any interest.
  12. Spex, I'm just trying to let someone see the results in person before going through with an unreversable surgery. I'm not attacking the Doc, as a matter of fact, I'm thinking of getting some FUE's into the scar from the doc, I'm confused a little though at why you stress repair. Dr. Feller was extremely adament that my hair grew in exactly as he expected, and he thinks it looks great (maybe you need to clear that up with the doc) I however disagree. Once again, I'm not assigning blame. I just think my Ht is obvious. Also, If your hair is sincerely undetectable after a repair from Dr. Feller, why should'nt my Ht be undetectable after a repair from the doc. My repair entailed a whole lot more grafts than yours. And, I think my starting point was a little better than yours also. But, I'm not here to argue, I'm here to share experiences. My only goal is to educate people as to what (in Dr. Feller's words) a "decent" Ht looks like in person. My goal is not to deter any one from Feller, but to let them see the actual results of a "decent" Ht. Is that wrong? I wish I saw actual results before I took the plunge. My only intent is to help someone out in a circumstance that I can relate to. I have no motive other than my honest experiences. I'm not compensated for my time on this forum. Can you say the same? I think when it comes to the well being of a patient, my intent is a little more altruistic than yours Spex. Trust me, I wish this forum never crossed my mind, but because I'm constantly uncomfortable with my situation, I tend to come back here time and time again.
  13. Do you have any pics? How is your scar? I would love to see what you look like. I'm really hoping I look half decent doing that with a little work on my scar. Did you have strip or FUE?
  14. That is what I'm hoping for. He has been out of his office for the last couple of weeks and I'm waiting to hear from him. I originally wanted to tattoo the scar first, then FUE into it, but I get absoulutely no feedback on the tattoo.
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