Regular Member Travis1 Posted February 19, 2012 Regular Member Share Posted February 19, 2012 Hi guys, I've been thinking alot lately on my struggles with hairloss and this is the current struggle that I'm facing. On love: Met a girl, went on a first date few days ago and I wore my baseball cap, tee shirt and jeans. I casually explained to her its a dress-down friday at work so I'm allowed to wear a cap at work. To be honest, I feel really lousy inside, and eventhough we had some form of chemistry, I'm afraid that she will run away at the sight of my receding hairline. I'm pretty hesitant to reply her text messages now. At work: I've been following up closely on three main surgeons, Dr. Feller, Dr. Hasson and Dr. Wong. Undoubtedly they have a proven track record as far as I'm aware of. However, I'm wondering, how do you guys cope during a post op period? I'm thinking of quitting my job and living like a hermit for at least a year before I can face myself. Its mind boggling really. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member Dutch Posted February 19, 2012 Senior Member Share Posted February 19, 2012 Hello, I went through this a few months just before I boarded the plane to see Dr Hasson- who by the way was a really nice person. Anyway...I went out on a few dates but had the same demons inside my head- so I was brave enough to speak to these ladies & get them out but was paranoid about my look! Now I'm in the resting phase until my hair grows then I'll be back to the dance floor Wouldn't worry too much! - I told people at work that I'm having a HT as I was only able to get 3 weeks off work. It was better that way and no one mocked me. I thought about quitting my job but that's crazy!! You'll be fine. Take a few weeks off if you can and use concealer by then. http://www.hairtransplantnetwork.com/blog/home-page.asp?WebID=2329 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Travis1 Posted February 19, 2012 Author Regular Member Share Posted February 19, 2012 Hi Dutch, many thanks for your comments and response, appreciate it - quite grateful for this forum here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member oceanchild Posted February 19, 2012 Regular Member Share Posted February 19, 2012 Dutch is right. If its not possible to hide then its better to tell people at work. I was also in the same situation while I went back to work after 1 month. I was prepared to tell the truth if anyone would have asked but luckily no one asked anything. Maybe they noticed but I didn't care. Its actually not a big deal. Many people do ht now a days. Quitting job will be crazy. Also concealers work pretty well to hide ht. You can think of applying concealers if you don't want people to notice. My Hair Loss Web Site Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Travis1 Posted February 19, 2012 Author Regular Member Share Posted February 19, 2012 Hi oceanchild, Thanks for responding, noted in that. Probably have to use toppik in the meantime Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member lcsulla Posted February 19, 2012 Regular Member Share Posted February 19, 2012 I just got a procedure done 10 days ago: my vertex was worked on, and well as my front. I start back to work on Tuesday and I have a hair cut that makes me look like friar tuck. I had been using concealers on my bald spot for a few months and now I go back to work with a bald spot about as big as you can get! My solution is to tell everyone I lost a bet to my brother while visiting him and he shaved it while I was asleep. Sounds a little lame, but hey how are they to really know? And in a few months I will start using concealers again until it grows out. I think at first people will be like "WTH did you do?" But after a few days everyone will forget about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Travis1 Posted February 20, 2012 Author Regular Member Share Posted February 20, 2012 Hi Icsulla, kudos to you for being candid and open about it! Thats an awesome attitude! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member lcsulla Posted February 20, 2012 Regular Member Share Posted February 20, 2012 Well my perspective has changed as I have gotten older. I mainly got this procedure done because I had one in the mid 90's that was beginning to show. If I had it to do all over again; I would just shave it. And I can totally sympathize with many of the young guys on this forum; they think losing their hair is the end of the world. I felt the exact same way. I only wish I had the options many of you guys in your 20's have. Think how all of the guys that are high NW's that are walking around in their late 40's and older that didn't have the options that we have today. Or the guys that were butchered throughout the 80's and 90's trying to get their hair back and look 100 times worse then being bald. Ugh. I feel I am pretty damn lucky to have kept a decent amount of hair (NW3V, in case you are wondering), and my goals are very modest. And it will grow back... LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Travis1 Posted February 20, 2012 Author Regular Member Share Posted February 20, 2012 Just to add to that point. We are still not spared with agents who are charismatic and making empty claims. In this age there is this unregulated and untested market out there. Which is quite scary really. All I can say is, go see a specialist and get it accessed by professionals. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member mattj Posted February 20, 2012 Senior Member Share Posted February 20, 2012 Travis, I insist you text that girl immediately! Or call her. Calls are better than texts. You don't yet have any solid reason to believe that she'll have a problem with your hair, and yet you're potentially killing the relationship through your own actions. I know this is easier said than done, and, lord knows, I've often let my own insecurities stand in the way of important things (and still do sometimes), but please take my advice. I've said it many times before: the psychological effects of dealing with hairloss are much more damaging to a guy's chances with women than the impact of hairloss on his appearance. Far more women are turned off by an insecure man who lacks confidence than are bothered by baldness. By allowing hairloss to damage your state of mind you effectively withdraw yourself from the dating game completely. However, I do think it's probably a bit of a mistake to cover yourself up on your first dates. You shouldn't turn your hairloss into a surprise that hits her later on. It is possible that she'll be put off by it. That's undeniable. If that happens let it happen sooner rather than later to lessen the disappointment. I hope you read all that and take it on board. I am a patient and representative of Dr Rahal. My FUE Procedure With Dr Rahal - Awesome Hairline Result I can be contacted for advice: matt@rahalhairline.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member England Posted February 20, 2012 Senior Member Share Posted February 20, 2012 Absolutely agree with Matt - never project your own issues onto other peoples opinions of you. She may very well not give a damn about hair, and liked you for your eyes or personality. My own hairdresser of 1 year didn't even realise I'd had a hair transplant 7 years ago until I told her last week. My girlfriend also never notices any bad hair days even though I can obsess about them. People just don't notice things in the same way that people who obsess over them do. Text the girl, and just be yourself. If there was great chemistry even with you wearing a cap obviously it's not that important to the dynamic what you have under there. As Matt says - your personality and a simple smile are more powerful than any amount of hair will ever be - to the right girl. Give this one a chance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Travis1 Posted February 21, 2012 Author Regular Member Share Posted February 21, 2012 Dear Matt, Thank you for your encouragement and you have very well articulated that teeny bit of scruple that is lodged in my heart. Sometimes, I could see the lyrics of the song, The space between by dave matthews band come to pass. Sounds like a damaging self fulfilling prophecy. Appreciate your kind words brother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Travis1 Posted February 21, 2012 Author Regular Member Share Posted February 21, 2012 Hi England, Makes good sense. Now for that leap of faith. You and Matt have provided grounded words of wisdom, I'm grateful to be in this forum reading this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member mattj Posted February 21, 2012 Senior Member Share Posted February 21, 2012 Hi Travis, Guys often post stories like yours and I always like to reply as I can personally relate, and I feel I've learnt a thing or two about these things. I'm glad you appreciate what I said and I hope it influences how you move forward with this girl. It would be good if you updated us on how it goes. If it goes badly then just try and shrug it off and remember that countless guys with no hair issues are going through the same thing. I am a patient and representative of Dr Rahal. My FUE Procedure With Dr Rahal - Awesome Hairline Result I can be contacted for advice: matt@rahalhairline.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Travis1 Posted February 21, 2012 Author Regular Member Share Posted February 21, 2012 Hi Matt, On hind sight, yeah I shld be upfront on not wearing a cap. Well, damage cannot be undone unless I go for HT. So thats one thing to bear in mind. Maybe a year or so, all will be well. Thanks buddy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member ArochaInfo Posted February 23, 2012 Senior Member Share Posted February 23, 2012 Travis1, I feel the need to chime in here and give you a female perspective. Mattj gave you some good advice-he's a smart man. First things first- text her back. Or- call her back- texting is overrated. I can guarantee you that your hairloss bothers you more than it bothers her. Trust me. And if you liked her- why miss out on a good thing? If she's texting you, chances are that she is interested. As for the whole job situation- don't quit your job. Many of our patients are back to work within a couple days of surgery. The brave ones are back at work the next day. As the previous gentlemen on this thread have suggested- there are other ways to fly under the radar without having to quit your job. The three surgeons that you listed have consistently good results. Continue doing your research like you have been, and you will be on your way to a great transplant. ~Kira p.s. After your transplant, you can say bye-bye to baseball caps on first dates! Employed by Dr. Bernard Arocha. Dr. Arocha is a member of the Coalition of Independent Hair Restoration Physicians. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavensCatTwentyFour Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 hi all, im new to this site and feel that the laser comb that i got- in the uk called hairmax laser comb-blue colour has within 1 year made my hair follical thin and my hair loss worse by thining it drastically. ive gone to a HT/ grafting surgeon in Thailand and he says that it will not work for me. i note that some of you are using pills which have been advised 'NOT FOR WOMEN' im so distraught and need advise on if there are any pills to use along with the regine/ rogaine for women- im only 29 and look like im still 18 lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member England Posted February 24, 2012 Senior Member Share Posted February 24, 2012 Just a quick link for you to check out: Topical Spironolactone for Women's Hair Loss: Does it Work? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member lcsulla Posted February 24, 2012 Regular Member Share Posted February 24, 2012 I am sorry to hear of your troubles. I would go speak to your doctor about either spironolactone or flutimide. They are both anti-androgens and there are numerous studies done on women. Or consult with a number of doctors in this site and see if they can help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Veritas84 Posted February 24, 2012 Regular Member Share Posted February 24, 2012 Travis, I applaud you for being open and sharing with us your problems. I'm here to chat if you want to PM me. Take a step back and take things in perspective. If it really bothers you, solve your problems first then go back to the dating scene. You don't want to have a scruple in your conscience dont you. Job wise, there is no one to please, and its all meeting targets and those corporate hoolabaloo. Don't be to worried, you can show the middle finger to anyone who talks trash to you. Its reciprocating to their nasty comment. Save the money from your job and when you find a better one with better colleagues and advancement. JUMP. The corporate world - dont deserve your sincerity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavensCatTwentyFour Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 @ Isculla, thanks for the advice for the sipronolactone but i have been taking this tablet for about 3 years now. however, i will ask about the other tablet you have mentioned. will keep you posted. @ England- thanks- gona check out that link. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member lcsulla Posted February 24, 2012 Regular Member Share Posted February 24, 2012 Flutamide is much stronger the Spiro. So yes ask your doctor about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member MrJobi Posted March 18, 2012 Senior Member Share Posted March 18, 2012 Hi I kept all of my procedures under cover. Of course this depends how many grafts you get (and if you have to shave your head). Just keep the back and sides longer to cover the donor area and use concealer about a week or so after (per your post surgey instructions) Jobi JOBI 1417 FUT - Dr. True 1476 FUT - Dr. True 2124 FUT - Dr. True 604 FUE - Dr. True My views are based on my personal experiences, research and objective observations. I am not a doctor. Total - 5621 FU's uncut! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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