My partner has been awesome with this. Simply put, if she has something deeply personal she wants to resolve, I will give her all the love and support I can, likewise, I hope she does the same for me.
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I don't want to have a pop at someone you may very much care about, but I think you should reflect on where you are currently are emotionally and romantically.
I work in an office full of women and they love criticizing men (those who are short, bald, wearing clothes they don't like etc), yet they can rest safe in the knowledge that nobody will criticise them for their flaws. Insulting men is fine; insulting women is not. It's this messed up ideology that continues the myth that men are not allowed to have feelings or insecurities as well. As a result, it's okay to pick them apart - because it won't hurt them...right?
I suspect that your partner may come from this old school way of thinking. Worse still is the fact the evidence that you have insecurities by the fact that you've spent a lot of money on something that is deeply bothering you..and she is still criticising you for it. Even worse is the fact that you are going through the most difficult shedding stage of HT where you are at your most sensitive and doubtful and she is still criticising you.
It may be worth really having a proper talk with your partner and letting her know how much MPB has affected you and how much the HT means to you. If you get nowhere, I fear that she may not be there for other emotionally difficult times in your life as well. It sounds like she wants to you to fit into her understanding of what men should be as opposed to accepting who you actually are. If this is the case, it may be worth reflecting on how much of a future there is with this woman.
Best of luck. And apologies if you feel I've stepped beyond the mark.