Anyone know a good hair product that lets hair looks natural, yet holds it in place?

[jackisback1]

My problem is that if I use say a lot of gel my hair is hard and held down, but clumped together with showing big holes in my forehead. If I use a small amount of wax I can get the right look in the mirror, but then later in the day the front of my hair will be all sticking up stupid on one side (left right) of my head. This can be the result of the most slight gust of wind, fan, walking fast, what have you.

 

I was looking at this particular picture of matthew mccoughnehey linked below, and I was hoping to get this kind of texture (although i have less hair, i'd have to wear it down, not up).

 

http://eur.news1.yimg.com/eur.yimg.com/xp/corazon/20030717/10/2117798249.jpg

 

Any suggestions?