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Does anyone know if the scar becomes visible while the hair is wet?

I appreciate the support and the responses. This is truly a great forum. Thank you all so much. Concerning the personality/sex appeal topic, I have to say that I don't believe a woman is shallow for wanting a man she is attracted to. She is only shallow if sex is the sole reason she engages in the relationship. This also goes for men, too. Sex appeal has to do with survival of the species and a healthy sex life is an important part of a healthy relationship. My hopes are that a HT will help me complete the circle and eliminate the one gap that has kept me from entering a healthy relationship. I have been with a handful of women in my life that I truly connected with. Generally, everything was picture perfect, yet in the end, sex appeal was always the ONLY hang up. It's been torture to know that on all levels a relationship was 95 percent complete, yet her sexual attraction to me was invariably the sole reason the relationship dissolved. "I'm sorry... you're wonderful. I love you. I'm just not attracted to you." Ouch. As for the statement that some women go for bald men (which I'm sure is a topic that has been discussed a million times over on this forum) I think that idea is subjective. For some that is true, yes, but for others it is not. Some men simply don't look good bald (which is my case) and that can pose a problem. I am pasty and pale with light blonde eyebrows and eyelashes. Basically I am the next closest thing to an albino. Hair provides one bit of coloration and a geometric balance to my head that makes all the difference in my physical appearance. If I could go bald and look good, believe me, I would. I'd do it in a heartbeat and never look back. Unfortunately, I am not so lucky. I don't look good bald at all. I understand that hair is not a doorway to happiness. As I stated before, I've never been an advocate of plastic surgery. But I feel like I've been working on my personality, my confidence, my talents, and every other aspect of my being for years now and still, this one stupid, trivial thing seems to consistently block my progress in finding a relationship. I want a HT not as an end all be all solution, but to simply increase my chances of finding happiness. Again, thank you all for your opinions and your insight. It's tough to make a decision like this.

Hey there. I am 28 years old and as you can see by my username... i'm at the end of my rope. I am so tired of being rejected by women because of my hairloss. It's unnerving. I know people say women generally go after personality, but I've run into NUMEROUS situations now where I've met a great woman and the only hang up in the relationship is her physical attraction to me. I am an artist and my personality is what attracts women to me initially. However... I've seen a large trend where a woman will discover my hairloss and then begin to distant herself slowly and carefully (as not to offend me). Then, because she loves my personality, she will try to maintain a close friendship with the whole "let's be friends" thing. This has been my life for over a decade. I wish it wasn't an issue and for those that have found women without resorting to a HT, I envy you. My experience has been vastly different. The world has changed MASSIVELY since the introduction of television and the media. The physical standards have been carried to unreachable heights. It's crazy what a person must resort to these days just to compete. At 29 I feel 45 and I look almost 70. I completely missed out on my early youth. While all my friends were going crazy during their twenties, I was quietly sitting in the background, doing my best to get along. It's been horrible. Now I want to try and snatch a little bit of my youth back before I swim through my thirties. I need to salvage something! Anything! And so... despite the fact I've always snubbed plastic surgery and the direction of the misguided American dream, I am lowering my head and getting a HT. I've tried everything else and I'm at the point now that if I don't do something, I'll just end up sitting in my house, alone with my guitar, until the day I die. I have decided to get a consultation from Hasson and/or Wong and go with the best. I am very, very pale with bright blonde hair. My primary concerns are redness, scarring, and wounds. If something goes wrong, I won't be at the end of my rope anymore... I'll be sliding off it. Are there any extremely pale people on this board that have had HTs? How was the scarring and how long did it take for your scalp to return to a normal color?

Hey there. I am 28 years old and as you can see by my username... i'm at the end of my rope. I am so tired of being rejected by women because of my hairloss. It's unnerving. I know people say women generally go after personality, but I've run into NUMEROUS situations now where I've met a great woman and the only hang up in the relationship is her physical attraction to me. I am an artist and my personality is what attracts women to me initially. However... I've seen a large trend where a woman will discover my hairloss and then begin to distant herself slowly and carefully (as not to offend me). Then, because she loves my personality, she will try to maintain a close friendship with the whole "let's be friends" thing. This has been my life for over a decade. I wish it wasn't an issue and for those that have found women without resorting to a HT, I envy you. My experience has been vastly different. The world has changed MASSIVELY since the introduction of television and the media. The physical standards have been carried to unreachable heights. It's crazy what a person must resort to these days just to compete. At 29 I feel 45 and I look almost 70. I completely missed out on my early youth. While all my friends were going crazy during their twenties, I was quietly sitting in the background, doing my best to get along. It's been horrible. Now I want to try and snatch a little bit of my youth back before I swim through my thirties. I need to salvage something! Anything! And so... despite the fact I've always snubbed plastic surgery and the direction of the misguided American dream, I am lowering my head and getting a HT. I've tried everything else and I'm at the point now that if I don't do something, I'll just end up sitting in my house, alone with my guitar, until the day I die. I have decided to get a consultation from Hasson and/or Wong and go with the best. I am very, very pale with bright blonde hair. My primary concerns are redness, scarring, and wounds. If something goes wrong, I won't be at the end of my rope anymore... I'll be sliding off it. Are there any extremely pale people on this board that have had HTs? How was the scarring and how long did it take for your scalp to return to a normal color?