Senior Member davidn Posted July 19 Senior Member Share Posted July 19 Taking meds, using fiber, doing surgeries... I am looking for your stories, what made you decide you wanna go that direction? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member laverita Posted July 19 Regular Member Share Posted July 19 It is deep and my thinking was firstly I didn't want hairloss to define me..the bald guy...Secondly throughout centuries the richest men in the world never have had the opportunity to deal with their hair loss and we do. So, I wanted to take advantage of that and also it is not adding something I never had, it is recovering what I lost. I also did it for myself and not others. Yes it is risk, a sacrifice, and there is a cost to it but in the right hands it really is life changing. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member BaldReaper Posted July 19 Senior Member Share Posted July 19 Didnt like looking 45 when I was 25 15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member asterix0 Posted July 19 Senior Member Share Posted July 19 (edited) I looked significantly worse. You are treated much worse in society as such, professionally, romantically, hell even platonically...It is what it is. Edited July 19 by asterix0 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member kajl Posted July 19 Regular Member Share Posted July 19 i went with the hair transplant route which I deeply regret every morning when I wake up. Above the suboptimal result and scarring - I realised that being bald does not actually define you and you can actually use it to your advantage to improve other aspects of your life to actually "balance" things out to put it that way. There are plenty of dudes who are bald and are very successful and those are things that actually last and are meaningful. I do not agree that you are treated worse in society - if you are fit and have things going on in your life you will be allright. I know this sounds controversial but that is what I think. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member Paul_ Posted July 19 Regular Member Share Posted July 19 (edited) My hair was one of my best features, even wore it long for years (grew up with heavy metal 🙂). Same as asterix said, I look objectively worse with a buzzcut Losing it felt unjust and random and I wanted it back. Hindsight being 20/20, it's easy to see now through that shroud of emotion, I should've worked on accepting it instead Edited July 19 by Paul_ 2 Two successful repairs (pluggy hairline removal + donor restoration) with Dr Ball - The Maitland Clinic https://www.hairrestorationnetwork.com/topic/72766-pluggy-hairline-removal-donor-restocking-2-repairs-with-dr-ball-maitland-clinic/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member son2 Posted July 19 Regular Member Share Posted July 19 The advice of getting fit and working on other aspects of your life if you're bald just proves the point that it doesn't look good on most people and you need to compensate somehow 🤷♂️ You know what's better than bald and fit? Full head of hair and being fit 6 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member kajl Posted July 19 Regular Member Share Posted July 19 39 minutes ago, son2 said: The advice of getting fit and working on other aspects of your life if you're bald just proves the point that it doesn't look good on most people and you need to compensate somehow 🤷♂️ You know what's better than bald and fit? Full head of hair and being fit My comment will obviously not go down well in a hair restoration forum were most people give "vanity" more importance than the average guy on the street. I agree with you that most people look better with hair than without hair. I have an abnormally sized head - I shaved my head around 5 times in my life. when I was younger I used to be teased about my abnormally large head. Having hair used to somehow help conceal things. A year before the transplant I shaved my head again, I look at the mirror I don't like it, I also ask my friends what they think - they say hair is better. So I know what you mean - but looking back if I somehow completely ignored what I look like and focused my time on my career, friends, relationships etc especially this past year I would be in a much much better place financially and spiritually and probably with more character. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member davidn Posted July 19 Author Senior Member Share Posted July 19 (edited) 6 hours ago, laverita said: It is deep and my thinking was firstly I didn't want hairloss to define me..the bald guy...Secondly throughout centuries the richest men in the world never have had the opportunity to deal with their hair loss and we do. So, I wanted to take advantage of that and also it is not adding something I never had, it is recovering what I lost. I also did it for myself and not others. Yes it is risk, a sacrifice, and there is a cost to it but in the right hands it really is life changing. So you dont regret? 4 hours ago, BaldReaper said: Didnt like looking 45 when I was 25 How old are you now and would you do it again? 2 hours ago, asterix0 said: I looked significantly worse. You are treated much worse in society as such, professionally, romantically, hell even platonically...It is what it is. Haha gotcha. I am still ugly but less ugly. 1 hour ago, kajl said: i went with the hair transplant route which I deeply regret every morning when I wake up. Above the suboptimal result and scarring - I realised that being bald does not actually define you and you can actually use it to your advantage to improve other aspects of your life to actually "balance" things out to put it that way. There are plenty of dudes who are bald and are very successful and those are things that actually last and are meaningful. I do not agree that you are treated worse in society - if you are fit and have things going on in your life you will be allright. I know this sounds controversial but that is what I think. Same! I am only 27 only and had 4000 grafts already. Quite scared. Might have to go the hair system Route soonish! Edited July 19 by davidn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member laverita Posted July 19 Regular Member Share Posted July 19 (edited) 1 hour ago, davidn said: So you dont regret? No, I had a lot of surgery from near 20 years ago and no regret. To think the whole industry was not developed as it is now but I still put research as my priority and put value above cost and for me it turned out well. Today is far more complex than 20 years ago and far more damage done on a huge scale and to very young patients, so many have regrets but I don't at all and this is sincere. Edited July 19 by laverita typo 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member sewoa Posted July 19 Regular Member Share Posted July 19 (edited) I got long hair when I was 12 years old.. and I really loved my hair.. then when the first signs came at the age of 22 I felt such great anxiety that I felt I had to fight this at all costs.. Now that I am 40 plus so the only thing I regret is that I started finasteride.. my two hair transplants were quite successful so it's nothing I regret.. Edited July 20 by Al - Moderator Fixed formatting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Al - Moderator Posted July 20 Moderators Share Posted July 20 At age 15 I had noticeably thinning hair. At age 16 I was getting teased about my bald spot. At age 17 I was turned down for the high school prom by a girl who I had been set up to go with because "all his hair is falling out" (that's the reason she gave me and the person who set us up together). At age 19 I was told I was too old to be trying to date 20 something year olds because they were half my age. At age 20 when I did date a woman my age I was told I was robbing the cradle and looked ridiculous dating someone so much younger than me. At 21 I was told I should be dating 45 year olds. Then I got a hair system which I hated and a year later at 22 I had my first hair transplant. The short version: I didn't want to skip all the years between ages 18 and 45. 3 2 Al Forum Moderator (formerly BeHappy) I am a paid forum moderator for hairrestorationnetwork.com. I am not a Dr. and I do not work for any particular Dr. My opinions are my own and may not reflect the opinions of other moderators or the owner of this site. I am also a hair transplant patient and repair patient. You can view some of my repair journey here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member londonbased Posted July 20 Regular Member Share Posted July 20 (edited) 4 hours ago, Al - Moderator said: At age 15 I had noticeably thinning hair. At age 16 I was getting teased about my bald spot. At age 17 I was turned down for the high school prom by a girl who I had been set up to go with because "all his hair is falling out" (that's the reason she gave me and the person who set us up together). At age 19 I was told I was too old to be trying to date 20 something year olds because they were half my age. At age 20 when I did date a woman my age I was told I was robbing the cradle and looked ridiculous dating someone so much younger than me. At 21 I was told I should be dating 45 year olds. Then I got a hair system which I hated and a year later at 22 I had my first hair transplant. The short version: I didn't want to skip all the years between ages 18 and 45. Nicely said. I think most of us on here have some tragic hair related moments we can’t forget. I know I do. Makes me think if I didn’t have those, would I still get the surgery, meds and undertake countless hours of research. I like to think the answer is yes but I don’t really know. Edited July 20 by londonbased 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member enes Posted July 26 Regular Member Share Posted July 26 I actually accepted it at first and shaved my head for some time. It was after my now ex girlfriend broke up with me that I started to working on myself to get over her. I lost over 20 kg and put some muscles on, got a hair transplant, LASIK-surgery to get rid of my glasses and improved my fashion style. The hairloss still continues and I actually hate the fact that I have to fight this battle over and over again, well knowing, that I can't win against male pattern baldness with my situation (poor donor area and not taking any meds). I hope that sooner or later I will have the courage to shave my head again (maybe combined with SMP) and forget about hairloss for ever.. I am freshly 30 years old btw. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member StillAlive Posted July 26 Senior Member Share Posted July 26 I grew up playing in bands and being a good-looking lad. I experienced gradual hairloss and actually made it all the way to 37 a solid NW3, not even thinking about a hair transplant. The incredible stresses that hit me between 37-41 got me from a thick NW3 to NW5 in a bad dream of vanishing time. When I did recover and pull out of that tunnel, I did not want to be beaten or scarred. I had pulled through the toughest thing that happened to me, my hair loss was accelerated 10X because of it and it was well within my means to fix it, so that the face in the mirror would match the rest of me in recovery. It's about not letting circumstances out of my control beat me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member Legend007 Posted July 26 Senior Member Share Posted July 26 Getting a hairtransplant was worth the money for me.. i was cheap about it at first but the $20,000 spent was worth it.. after losing alot of money on stocks im grateful the hairtransplant is still on my head n i have something to show for it.. i barely comb or put any products on my head, im not all about looking heka good, but i like to feel comfortable in my skin n not have to be self conscious about my hair.. and till this day noone even knows i had any work done. All my brothers have thick hair, and only have one friend that is bald.. so having hair again feels great.. i look young n better looking than most people my age.. n in fact had done some modeling pics for my company, so they can use in advertisements n stuff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member BaldReaper Posted August 4 Senior Member Share Posted August 4 On 7/19/2024 at 2:02 PM, davidn said: So you dont regret? How old are you now and would you do it again? Haha gotcha. I am still ugly but less ugly. Same! I am only 27 only and had 4000 grafts already. Quite scared. Might have to go the hair system Route soonish! Yes but I would probably go to a better doctor and have a better plan 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member SeekingStubble Posted August 19 Regular Member Share Posted August 19 (edited) On 7/26/2024 at 1:51 PM, enes said: I actually accepted it at first and shaved my head for some time. It was after my now ex girlfriend broke up with me that I started to working on myself to get over her. I lost over 20 kg and put some muscles on, got a hair transplant, LASIK-surgery to get rid of my glasses and improved my fashion style. The hairloss still continues and I actually hate the fact that I have to fight this battle over and over again, well knowing, that I can't win against male pattern baldness with my situation (poor donor area and not taking any meds). I hope that sooner or later I will have the courage to shave my head again (maybe combined with SMP) and forget about hairloss for ever.. I am freshly 30 years old btw. The "shave your head and get over it" thing is not as easy as some people like to make it out to be. I started shaving my head at 23, not because I was totally bald but my hairline just looked so so bad. Continued with that for 12 years, somehow managed to get married to a beautiful woman and have my first kid. Actually coming across forums like this and realizing that hair loss is becoming something treatable with aesthetically pleasing outcomes reawakened all the feelings that I had buried deep inside me in order to survive. I don't want to be the bald dad, the only bald family member at reunions, I don't want to be the bald anything it's such a disfiguring condition. It was just a cruel twist of fate that has caused me so much deep suffering this whole time no matter how much I powered through it and moved on with my life. I do think your SMP on top of the transplant idea could work because as much as people like to pretend otherwise, a buzzed head looks NOTHING like a bald head. Edited August 19 by SeekingStubble 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valued Contributor Gatsby Posted August 20 Valued Contributor Share Posted August 20 Throughout all of my late teens I identified with my long, curly hair. Girls loved it so I identified strongly with my hair. When it first began when I turned 18 I panicked. It was like I was loosing a part of myself. However despite only slowly seeing my temples recede it felt like I was losing all of my hair. Everywhere I went I became obsessed with hairlines and guys who were bald. Within six months I had my first punch graft hair transplant. Withing six months I had a second one (which was supposed to fix the results of the first one). At this point I felt more lost than ever. It was the worst decision that I had ever made. 1 2 GATSBY 'UNPLUGGED!' 15,671 (3 surgeries) Grafts FUE+BHT Dr. Sethi Eugenix Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators Melvin- Admin Posted August 21 Administrators Share Posted August 21 Hair loss was a deep insecurity, it was something that obliterated my self-confidence. I always took pride in my hair. In high school people always commented about how perfect my hair was, I loved trying different styles. When I started losing my hair, it became apparent not only was I losing my youth at such a young age, but I was losing my ability to express myself through different styles. I tried shaving but that was like wearing uniform that I hated. I can respect men who move on and shave, but that isn’t for everyone. Luckily, we live in a time where hair loss can be more or less cured with a combination of surgery, medication and products. 3 Quote I was just an inch away from booking a a hairmill based on google reviews before i stumbled upon this goldmine of a forum. I’m a paid administrator for Hair Transplant Network. I do not receive compensation from any clinic, and my comments are not medical advice. Check out my final hair transplant and topical dutasteride journey: View my thread Topical dutasteride journey Melvin- Managing Publisher and Forum Moderator for the Hair Transplant Network, the Coalition Hair Loss Learning Center, and the Hair Loss Q&A Blog. Follow our Social Media: Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regular Member anon493 Posted October 6 Regular Member Share Posted October 6 In the modern dating age it's impossible to get a woman if you are balding. Especially in your 20s. I have lots of ED from dutasteride but it doesn't matter. If I lose my hair no point in having a working willard because I'll never get to use it. At least with hair I can get attention from women even if I can't get it up. Going bald is dedicating yourself to a life of loneliness and shame especially if you have a bad head shape like me. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valued Contributor Berba11 Posted October 6 Valued Contributor Share Posted October 6 (edited) 5 hours ago, anon493 said: In the modern dating age it's impossible to get a woman if you are balding. Especially in your 20s. I have lots of ED from dutasteride but it doesn't matter. If I lose my hair no point in having a working willard because I'll never get to use it. At least with hair I can get attention from women even if I can't get it up. Going bald is dedicating yourself to a life of loneliness and shame especially if you have a bad head shape like me. I actually think this post is even worse than your "I'm being investigated for sexual assault but can I still get a HT regardless?" post. Every single line is absolute nonsense. Edited October 6 by Berba11 2 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Member davidn Posted October 6 Author Senior Member Share Posted October 6 5 hours ago, anon493 said: In the modern dating age it's impossible to get a woman if you are balding. Especially in your 20s. I have lots of ED from dutasteride but it doesn't matter. If I lose my hair no point in having a working willard because I'll never get to use it. At least with hair I can get attention from women even if I can't get it up. Going bald is dedicating yourself to a life of loneliness and shame especially if you have a bad head shape like me. Brother, go visit the city center. Look at the couples holding hands. You will notice there are plenty of bald guys with beautiful girlfriends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valued Contributor Berba11 Posted October 6 Valued Contributor Share Posted October 6 On 7/19/2024 at 11:30 AM, kajl said: I know this sounds controversial but that is what I think. It's not controversial - you're absolutely correct. A lot of guys who are super insecure about their hair loss simply cannot see the wood for the trees on this. They convince themselves that others think less of them etc and then reinforce that limiting belief through confirmation bias. A small number of them then go online and imprint their own limiting beliefs onto other impressionable men and you get a great big negative feedback loop. It's actually pretty sorry to see. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valued Contributor Berba11 Posted October 6 Valued Contributor Share Posted October 6 4 minutes ago, davidn said: Brother, go visit the city center. Look at the couples holding hands. You will notice there are plenty of bald guys with beautiful girlfriends. Careful, or @Matthiaswill give you a thumbs down for pointing out that 2+2=4... But you're right. His comment is mental. That said, I should probably tell my NW7 Dad - a father of four and grandfather of two - that actually he's "destined for a life of loneliness" despite his entire life's experience to the contrary. I guess I should also go and investigate whether my partner of 12 years is actually a figment of my imagination given I had significant hair loss when we [allegedly] first met. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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