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Decision time, too depressed to go on like this.


swayzedo

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This year saw the complete destruction of the best relationship I ever had with a woman and it was all my own fault due to my crippling neurosis. I always thought she would leave me becasue I wasn't good enough or handsome enough and at least 75% of this neurosis came from my receding hairline.



I used to be a confident, outgoingl ife of the party person and I realise now what a change my receding hairline has made in me psychologically and although losing this fantastic, kind and wonderful woman for good and to another person I might add is something I am going to have to live with for the rest of my life and I will never forget it.



Add to this my dear friend of 12 years just passed away from unexpected and agressive cancer. He always wanted to get his somewhat large nose reduced AND fix his bald patch but was always worried about debt and never got around to it and hance never enjoyed it.



I have made the decison to go for a hair transplant at some point this year. I can't afford it and I will probably not be able to keep up payments but I'm getting a loan or a credit card and getting it done. The crippling, soul destroying lack of confidence has turned me into a person I don't want to be and to have that lifted will be a mental godsent in the purest form. Learing to accept it or therapy won't work, I've tried it and I can't.



I know many others feel the way I do, hair loss can change you, it can change your psyche and cause severe mental disturbance because it is true, if you are not happy with yourself then you won't be happy with anyone else. I am one step short of going on a campaign to try and present this to the psychiatric medical community in order to get hair loss regognised as a 100% legitimate mental trauma.



In the UK you get expensive tests, pills, lengthy treatment for depression and other unseen traumas that seemingly have no root for free on the NHS. Why not hair loss? Why is it that becasue some people take it in their stride that others who are not as secure have to suffer it being labeled 'cosmetic'?I have made my opinions on the high price of HT's very clear, it's far, far too expensive to the point that it is not a 'luxury', it is 'exclusive' and this needs to stop right now. No one is saying it should be cheap but the small smount of surgery I would need to make me happy will still run up to £5000 which is absoolute nonsense.



Unfortuatly all my physical issues that I have with myself seem to land on my head. Bad acne as a teenager left my cheeks deeply pockmarked, dermatitus and prescribed steroid cream has made my skin sag on one side of my face. I have since made this slightly better by a good natural diet, excercise and skin care routune but the damage is done and my hair is the only thing I have left and I can't lose that.


But like I said, at this point I don't care, I could get cancer tomorrow and never know the joy of having my confidence back and I don't want to live hiding in the shadows any more.



I will go to a loan shark if I have to to get the money. I have £3000 in savings which is all I have (and honestly should be more than enough if hair transplants were a fair price) but I need another 2 and a half and I will get it any way I can.



Yes this is desperation and I don't blame capitalism, hard work should be rewarded. What I do blame is failure to recognise genuine mental trauma from a physical condition and exploitation of that trauma from overpriced clinics.



I know I'm not alone, this is what keeps me thinking this is the right (and only) way!

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Hello my friend...

I´ve read your story and all I can tell you is that I can´t stop smilling, seriously, I simply can´t!

I can´t because I am in my 40´s and last November I felt the same way. I have been struggling to take care of my family (mother and sister), my own life, my house, loans, fix bills, Pos Grad, Master Program etc etc etc.

My Norwood is 6 and there was nothing I could have done to change that, I mean, there was but I have been so stressed out for these last 05/10 years that I didn´t care at all about it.

I have always been very careful with my debts, I have never had my name in trouble with financial things etc etc etc...

What did I gain from that? From having a "clean" name?

Nothing...

last November month I went to the bank and talked with my manager. He has been working with me (my bank account) since 2001. I talked with him and got a $ 22.000 loan.

I got the money, went to the best Brazilian Surgeon/Clinic in São Paulo (hair Transplant - http://clinicamuricy.com.br/sp/pt/index.php) and paid $ 8.900 and also paid the hotel one year ahead. Yeah, I mean, I did that!

I am going to have a surgery this November.

I have been using Minoxidil, Spectral DNC-S, 02 Special Lotions, Oral Medicines such as Saw Palmetto, Nettle and Pygeum Africanus, Multivitamins, Hairmax and my improvement has been absolutely OUTSTANDING!

I am doing that because by the time I am having this surgery in November my scalp is going to be fuller and way better so the result is going to blow anyone away!

My scalp is going to be all covered!

The rest {($22.000 - ($ 8.900 + $600)} I did an absolutely amazing treatment in my teeth!

I´ve covered 10 teeth at the top and 09 at the bottom with PURE PORCELAIN VENEERS!

MY mouth is so beautiful, so perfect that I cant stop looking at the mirror...

Everybody is amazed with its perfection.

 

You know what my friend...

 

I DONT GIVE A SHIT TO THE BANK!

 

I dont give a shit to the manager!

 

I DONT GIVE A DUMB TO ANYONE ELSE!

 

ALL I WANT IS HAVING A VERY GOOD LOOK!

 

IS THERE ANYONE CONCERNED ABOUT WHAT I´VE DONE?

 

GO TO THE FUCKING BANK AND PAY THE BILL... KKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

 

PLEASE, DO ME A FAVOR, TELL THEM THAT I AM DEAD! MAYBE THEY ARE GOING TO STOP SENDING ME THOSE FUCKING STUPID LETTERS!

 

KKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

 

YEAH NAME IS FUCKED UP BUT MY HAIR IS GOING TO BE BACK AND MY MOUTH IS STUNNING!

 

MY BOYFRIEND IS SO JEALOUS!

 

AND HE IS TOTALLY RIGHT BECAUSE EVERYBODY KEEPS LOOKING AT MY SMILE BECAUSE ITS SO FREAKING PERFECT!

 

FUCK OFF BANCO ITAÚ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

DO THE SAME MY FRIEND: BE HAPPY!

 

THAT´S WHY THE BANKS DO EXIST: TO PAY OUR BILLS!

 

BANCO ITAÚ HAS PAID FOR MY TREATMENT!

 

KKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

 

 

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Hi brazbear, thank you for your comment. I'm so happy I'm not the only one that feels like this and I'm glad that doing it made you happy despite the debt consequences.

 

This is a serious condition for some people and this blatant exclusivity for people with money has to stop and it must become a recognised medical condition. No-one is trying to take money away from surgeons, in fact if the price were lowered to a reasonable rate then more people could afford it and the same amount of money would come in but the added bonus of more happy people in the world.

 

Those who are fine with baldness, I applaud you. Even if you have hair and shave your head then that is great also, but give the rest of us the dignity of choice.

 

Imagine a jacket that looks absolutely terrible on you and imagine someone telling you you have to wear that jacket for the rest of your life but it's ok because it looks great on other people and if you try to wear what you think looks good then you are selfish and vain.

 

This is destruction of individuality at it's most raw point and it must stop now.

 

I would happily pay £1 -1.5 per graft for a FUE hair transplant. That's over £2000 maybe £3000 for a days work and I know no other profession that can rake in that amount of money let alone the prices that are being charged now so no-one can tell me that clinics are losing out in any way.

 

Doctors of the world you took an oath to help and heal people, please recognise this as a legitimate mental condition that deeply affects most who experience it.

 

 

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Hi pal!

sorry to hear of the rough patch in your life, but I've been there..

when my gf broke up with me, i felt like part of it was due to my lack of confidence related to hair loss.. what's more is that the stress of the break up caused even worse hair loss!

 

i was in a very depressed spot and it was difficult to make a clear decision on whether to proceed with the hair transplant.. such is the nature of depression, it makes it difficult to make clear choices... anyway, with the support of family, and with a bit of courage, i decided to just go fot it!

I have never regretted the choice.. I am so much happier post-transplant... but one important thing is make sure you have a great surgeon-- someone who has been in the field and has a very good reputation....

 

Good luck my friend-- I am rooting for you!

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