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It's not vanity, I actually don't want to think about my hair!



Well it's late on a Friday night and I felt like writing something down so here we go. It's not an update (much) or my usual moan but just some thoughts.

I've come around to the fact that hair has become an obsession with me. Not that it's anything new, I've always had a thing about hair since the days of watching He-Man as a child in the early 80's and I've always had long hair. I just like the way it feels and it suits my head and face. Seriously! I wouldn't suit short or no hair.

With that in mind I do put this obsession that has developed now down to a combination of my early love for hair and a slight but all too real form of mental trauma. I don't kid when I say this, many peoples obsessions are the result of trauma and for a man, losing your hair can be extremely traumatic indeed. Even all the scam websites push this fact, albeit for the wrong reasons, and I'm sure everyone on here would share this feeling but yet it is still seen as a cosmetic luxury. Why?

It comes down to the opinion of "You can function properly without any hair!" Well, you can function properly with one leg as well. This may seem like an extreme example but the end result is basically true in this modern world.

People who worry about losing their hair are branded as vain with no real problems and this simply is not true. It is the opposite in fact.

I personally feel that if I could reverse my condition and grow hair back in the places that it is missing that my work productivity would increase tenfold, my confidence would grow even more and my general wellbeing would rise to heights that I can't even imagine becasue of the simple fact that I wouldn't have to think about my hair as much!

It's true! Most of my time is spent worrying about that gust of wind, or that spout of rain or that one annoying person who insists on ruffling your hair as a greeting and praying to whoever that it doesn't expose that horrible receding that I took great pains to style to make less noticable. if i had my way, it would be a quick wash and dry, a few strokes of the fingers through the hair and out the door without giving the locks a second thought.

It would also allow the sort of therapy women have been privy to for centuries. A change of style! There's not much you can do with (in my case) longish hair and a receding hairline bar a middle parting or slightly off centre and then tuck the rest behind your ears. What about a "straight from the pool" combed right back look, or even a clean cropped trendy style with a spike or some such or maybe a big sweeping side shed straight from the 1980's (my personal favourite)

It is true, a new hairstyle like new clothes can be like a change of character. Very helpful if you have some other sort of trauma going on in your life. It can completely transform the way your face is shaped, reflect your mood and make you feel like a new chapter has started.

This is the choice that is denied to millions of men around the globe due to a genetic defect that has absolutely no relevence OR advantage to anyone in this day and age, not that it ever did of course!

So why is everyone still treating this condition like a case of bad vanity? Is it vanity to want to look your best and therefor help you be your best? If I suffered facial burns and wanted to get it sorted would it be vanity then?

No? Why? I could still function.

These examples must seem rather heartless to the poor souls who have had to really suffer them, but I only use them becasueI have had them flung in my face when trying to discuss my hair loss with others only to be met with the response of "You don't have a problem, poor people with burns on one leg have problems!"

This is of course absolutely true, but just because one persons trauma is more extreme does not make the other persons any less of a trauma and this should be fully recognised by everyone!

We can grow a human ear on a mouse but we can't figure out how to regrow hair? Pull the other one!!!

Thanks for reading!

P.S. Just a small update on the derma roller. It's coming up to the 3 month mark now I think (or was that last month) and I'm still plugging away every night. My right temple which has the most receding has more darker longer hairs regrowing than the left which isn't as bad but only has a patch of dark hairs. Both sides seem to have ample vellus hairs in the form of what looks like downy fluff and again the overall result so far looks better in some lights than it does with others, although lately it feels like things have sort of slowed down a little in the progress department. I have noticed that any new dark hair that starts growing has an invisible tip that looks like an old vellus hair that is only visible in certain lights so I'm very much hoping that the rest will be going through their cycles and will follow suit.

Until next time!




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I can relate to everything you've said as I'm sure most balding guys can. However, perhaps I can relate a little more as I always had long hair myself. My hair was below chest level until 1995 when I became tired of having limited styling options due to my receding hairline and decided to cut it. For me, that was a good idea because my hair was still thick enough that it looked much fuller and thicker for the next 4 to 5 years. That's when the hair loss really took off.


I'd kill to have long hair again but it's just not an option for me with my lack of density.


Best of luck to you!



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