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Old 09-21-2012, 11:38 AM
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cheers mate, will do! Going to try to get out there and do more things; rather than work, study and going to bar!
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Old 09-21-2012, 12:17 PM
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Hey m8,
I can fully understand where your coming from,and although you say you wouldn't be bothered by your hairloss if in a relationship or married etc I think you'd probably find that wouldn't be the case! Mine started to recede pretty rapidly at 18 -22 and at the time I had long hair,never been thick hair like some of my friends had but ok! At them times I did really well with women,never had a problem pulling in bars or clubs and always with nice looking girls!! However inside I was always self conscious of my hair situation nicely helped out by my bunch of piss taking mates telling me in 2 years time your gonna be bald!!! But I'd laugh it off and just remind them who once again had pulled and who hadn't! This sort of gives u qdos in group of mates,rightly or wrongly lads look up to the guy who gets the most girls!!! At 22 I shaved my head,and kept it like that for 4 to 5 years,down to a grade 1 on occasions and still the piss taking and constant reminders came!!! But so to did the girls!!! I settled down at about 25 to 26 with my now wife and am very happily married with 2 children,and my hair is pretty much the same as when I was 22 and I'm now 37,I stopped shaving my head when I was about 26 and now just have normal length hair! Obviously now I don't go pulling young girls in bars anymore,but I'm sure if I was put back in that situation I probably could!!! The reason being,I was never the best looking guy in my group,some of my friends are very good looking lads and have always had thick full heads of hair,but I was the funniest,and to other people the most confident,so yeah I had to work harder than some of my other friends might of but would always be more successful then them!!! What girls like in a guy is confidence,simple,someone who's not arrogant but confident and funny!!! Confidence can either be there or be portrayed,I was and am still not overly confident due to hairless problems but have the ability to potray that I am super confident as I have done for the last 15 years!!! What you have got to accept is no one and I mean no one gets every girl them want or try to,but u gotta take the knock backs and just think there loss,and if it's because of your hairloss then they don't deserve your time of day anyway!!! I agree that bars and defiantly clubs are not the best way to meet women these days,gyms,shopping,friends of friends and everyday life is probably going to be the best way to meet someone, just get chatting wherever you see someone you like never mind how random it may be and try and be upbeat,confident and funny even if inside you may not feel that way! Girls like guys who are or are having fun!!! So if as you say,your quite happy with your hair situation or even if your not,try and have fun and believe me you will get your pick of the single available girls!! Not all of them,but a good majority!!! Being married to my beautiful wife and having 2 fantastic kids makes me happy,but my hair situation makes me as sad as ever,and I thinks sometimes,get a grip,why are you bothered!!! But annoyingly I am!!! And won't be truly happy until it's resolved which I'm in the process of sorting!!! But till then,I'm just gonna follow the advice iv given and fake it till I make it!!!! Good luck with it!!! And keep your chin up!
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Old 09-22-2012, 09:11 AM
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Thanks for your reply hairshoping. Another very interesting read, which puts stuff into prospective. Losing your hair makes you think/do, actions that you would not normally logically do. Good luck in your chosen path to resolve your hair loss, and by the sounds of it, you are already a very lucky man.
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Old 01-01-2013, 06:58 AM
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You really just need to enjoy dating and realize "everyone is not going to like you."

- your hair
- your car
- your height
- your job

There is no end! All you can do is try to be the " best you" and work on getting better. There are tall , hairy guys who get rejected too . Life is not fair and dating is a numbers game. The minute you accept the fact that some women will like you and some won't, it will make your life much easier. Dating in school or college was different because you have constant DIRECT contact with woman in your EXACT demographic most of which are date-able. Fast forward to adult life and you really don't have that . Bars don't count as everyone is on the defense and then you have to deal with all of the other factors as well.

The best thing - there are soooo many women out there!!! Find some women who enjoy a similar interest as you - this is the easiest way to find someone to click with . Have fun!!!!
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Old 01-01-2013, 09:28 AM
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Thanks, in need of some encouragement, as back on there! Any tips for messages etc from guys that have been successful, I seem to get a lot of 'meet me' (16 in three days) but nobody ever replies to my messages, including the women who have clicked on the meet me!!!!! lol
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Old 01-01-2013, 10:19 AM
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Hi

Are you talking about "online " dating? That is a numbers game hands down! I have done it for a while on and off and there is no rhyme or reason.

One thing I have learned is do not invest too much into one person before meeting them. Exchange a couple mails and meet . If not , you can waste a lot of time on someone who is not your type!
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Old 01-01-2013, 01:29 PM
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Yeh it is online....it seems girls I could get with in a bar, just ignore you online.....it's like the 6 and 7's start to think they are 9's or something!!! lol Is there an optimum profile length...I think mine might be too long!
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Old 01-01-2013, 02:25 PM
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Id say be yourself , sound interesting and fun but be a bit vague. Online dating is a numbers game, until they are at a bar with you - don't take it personal. Some of them probably aren't even real profiles .

I'd say 20% look like their photos - Go to some meetups on Meetup.com , at least you will see the person .
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Old 03-08-2013, 05:27 AM
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So I gave online dating another shot and would love to say it's been a success, but after last night I feel extremely low and depressed.

I have had four dates with different girls now, I'd say three were 7's and one was an 8! One of the sevens liked me and I gave it a fair chance going on three dates, i liked her just didn't feel the sexual chemistry and she said FOUR times in no uncertain words 'i dont want to end up alone' that put me off for a number of obvious reasons.

So i'll get to the rejections, all three have said the same thing 'no spark,' but what i have felt more or less instantly is a lack of interest, before I have even had the chance to muck things up with anything stupid I have said. My date last night no word of a lie, within five minutes started talking about how bad pof is and how she had been mucked around by guys on it and how she is considering going on match as it might be better! I feel into the trap of messaging her a lot because we couldn't meet up quickly due to circumstances, she really liked me and i really liked her (virtually), we got on great via messages and had a laugh. But within 30 seconds i felt she wasnt interested and five minutes she was telling me about her new dating plans, the only logical explanation is looks!!!!! (something that was never a problem when i had hair) It has hurt because i felt a bond with her, i had invested a lot of time and to be rejected so quickly without even been given a chance is hard to take, it's not even as if it was a 50/50, it was 100%. Looking at my pictures i believe they are a fair reflection of what i look like (obviously you pick the pictures where you are tanned etc) and she was fatter than her pictures showed.

That date before this went very similar, lack of interest almost instantaneously, talked about not liking online dating, etc.

the rejection texts go as follows, had good time, your a nice guy but didnt feel any spark, have a nice life!

I just don't get how a girl can go from so keen to totally uninterested in 30 seconds-and not even be willing to give me a chance, the only explanation is looks and that makes me feel like crap, because she was no megan fox herself!!!

So my advice to others is like was said above, never invest too much time into someone before you have met-meet asap because meeting someone in real life is totally different from online.
I'd also suggest paid website over free ones, my hit rate was much higher on match than pof. The women seem classier too!
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Old 03-08-2013, 05:58 AM
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Uk_lad,

I wouldn't cut yourself up about it. Don't take it personally and don't let it damage your ego.

It doesn't matter who you are, at some stage all guys have been knocked back by females and they will continue to get knocked back from women from time to time however eligible they may appear to be.

You just have to take it on the chin and move onto the next one. Sooner or later, your perserverance will help you stumble across a smoking hot lady
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