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Old 04-03-2011, 06:56 PM
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Default Why I Don't Blame Women For Shunning Bald Men.

This video says it all:







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Old 04-03-2011, 08:08 PM
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Yep... I agree 110%. Guys don't like to admit it due to ego and fear of being called vain or man-pretty, but it's the truth; in our judgmental, appearance-savvy, post-MTV-generation society, good hair is about as important as dressing sharp and being charming (or at least not being completely socially retarded). Some guys can get by without it, but anyone is better off with it.
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Old 04-03-2011, 11:08 PM
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Meh...I know a lot of hot women with bald men.
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give her the classic comb over .. job done !

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Old 04-04-2011, 08:03 AM
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Funny video, but I don't really buy it to be honest!

The biggest issue with bald/balding men is not really the fact they're bald, it's the fact that it's quite clear they've given up on their appearance. When men start thinning or go bald a lot of them tend to assume they're ugly and unattractive (an assumption this video rather cruelly perpetuates) and don't bother to groom themselves or make the most of their appearance. The net result is the guy looks like he either can't accept he's balding or has simply assumed it's not worth taking care of his appearance.

I think the simple truth is every man would like to keep his hair, even if it was only to have the option of having it. But you cannot tell me that men like Jason Statham, Vin Diesel or Bruce Willis would look "themselves" with a big mop of hair on their head. The bald look is part of what makes them physically attractive to women because they've embraced it.

Now, granted, not all men look their best or feel their best bald, but I think what women generally find the most unattractive quality about baldness is either a man's denial over it, or a man's refusal to continue striving to look his best because of it.

There are millions of bald men in this world who have wives, girlfriends and lovers; many of which the average man would class as generically 'beautiful'. If baldness was that deeply, universally unattractive, we'd have absolute legions of bald men who were single and completely unable to find anybody. It doesn't happen. There are of course lots of unhappily single bald men, but there are lots of unhappily single men with great heads of hair.

A lot of being attractive is down to how you feel about yourself and how you come across. It's a cliche but absolutely true. Look at Jason Statham. He's a man that, if he put on a stone of fat, grew what left of his hair out into a straggly mess and wore ill-fitting, bad clothes could very easily look horrendous. Instead he's just got on with it. And he's an out and out sex symbol. Now I know in his case being rich and famous helps, but I see dozens of guys down the gym with what's left of their hair shaved down to their scalp, and they have no trouble with women.

Nobody likes losing hair but those that choose to additionally become a complete victim to hairloss will really come across as undesirable and weak-willed. It happens to a huge amount of men, but many of them get on with their lives because they have a bit of confidence to do so. If all you can think of when you're speaking to a girl is your hairloss, then that's all you'll present outwardly.

This video is funny but I think it's a bit of a bullying tactic to be honest. The insinuation is that if you're bald or going bald, that's it, game over. That's never the case, but as long as the myth is around, we'll have people lining up for transplants that will never give them what they really want.
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Funny video, but I don't really buy it to be honest!

Nobody likes losing hair but those that choose to additionally become a complete victim to hairloss will really come across as undesirable and weak-willed. It happens to a huge amount of men, but many of them get on with their lives because they have a bit of confidence to do so. If all you can think of when you're speaking to a girl is your hairloss, then that's all you'll present outwardly.

This video is funny but I think it's a bit of a bullying tactic to be honest. The insinuation is that if you're bald or going bald, that's it, game over. That's never the case, but as long as the myth is around, we'll have people lining up for transplants that will never give them what they really want.

I appreciate your opinion and I think you make a good point. However, in the video, you'll see that the woman is obviously very confident and isn't obsessing over her hair loss at all… yet the reaction from the man is disgust. Confidence and charisma can only go so far. She may have been able to win him over as a friend with her personality, but never as a lover.

Lastly, I don't see this video as a bullying tactic at all. I view it more as social commentary. Among many other things, it addresses the hypocrisy of men setting double standards for women.

I often hear women bemoaning this fact of life. So many men want their women to be supermodels, yet these same men are unwilling to reciprocate by keeping themselves minimally groomed, kempt or in shape. I see it all the time here in NYC. Singles or groups of overweight, dirty, foul-smelling, foul-mouthed, poorly dressed men feel entitled to New York’s most beautiful, fashionable women... and trust me, NYC has the most beautiful women in the world!

Relationships, like any other life-venture, are about exchanging value for value. What each person values may differ from the next, thus finding that special someone with shared values is what is so challenging, yet rewarding in the end.

I’ve always approached women this way: What do I have to offer them? What do they have to offer me? Simply put, I want to be the dream man for my dream woman. My dream woman is beautiful, among other qualities; so at the very least, I have to look my best too.



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If you are out of shape, bad dresser, bald, vulgar but are rich or famous you will not have a problem picking up women. If you are an average Joe and are bald the odds will be against you. Very few women find bald men attractive just like very few men find obese women attractive. As sad as it sounds this is reality. Of course there are many other factor to consider but in my opinion this is the norm. I have a few friends that dont look after themselves (out of shape) yet there tastes in women are very high. I always tell them how do you expect to find an attractive women when you dont take care of yourself. They all say the same thing they are looking for somebody that will appreicate them for them and not how they look. Yet they are only looking for an attractive women not caring how she is only how she looks. With baldness its quite simular they want women to look past there baldness yet they are usually not willing to compromisse what they are looking for.
Its a sad realtity but when you first meet someone there has to be some sort of attraction in order to click with them unfortunately for bald men most women dont find being bald attractive unless you are rich or famous.
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I see what you're saying corvettester but I do believe the others above who have mentioned hot women being with bald men. Being bald is more common for men and therefore more accepted. Even the video is directed towards men, not women, which makes balding women seem like something especially abnormal. It's kind of a sad video actually.
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That's not to say all women accept bald men. I just think in general, bald men are more accepted than bald women. like corvettester said, double standard.
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just think in general, bald men are more accepted than bald women
It depends whether its for sex or a relationship. Although she is bald I wouldnt throw her out of bed...
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