Hi,
Has anyone noticed these people? They really p*ss me off. An eye drifter, is someone who while in conversation with you starts looking at your balding areas.
I've never understood why? Here's the thing, for the longest time, even when I had more hair - I never used to stare at bald people. Or if I was in conversation with them, starting scanning their frontal area or sides. In fact I don't recall even making jokes (an entirely different discussion) about them. What is this fascination that people have? I asked someone once what they were looking at and they just smiled...I wish I had punched him after, it was such a dopey smile.

I really noticed this phenomenon when I was in my mid to late twenties (a NW3 back then). Indeed, it used to bug me a bit. It is very distracting when you are trying to hold eye contact with someone who's gaze in transfixed on your hairline.

Fast forward 20 years and I've been a NW4 for quite a while. I don't notice it as much anymore. I'm not sure why. It could be that I'm not as sensitive to "hair scrutinization" as I used to be. I dunno.

Like you nm76, I'm not a starer at balding spots either. And, I surely do not make hair loss jokes at somone else's expense.

Hairloss has given me empathy for similar others in matters such as these.

Cheers!

mm76,

I feel exactly the same way. It was very discouraging when I could feel or see people looking at my thinning areas let alone a few comments here and there.

I guess people look for a number of reasons. I think people have a tendency to compare themselves to other people and eyes are often drawn to imperfections on others as a means to feel better about themselves.

Now I have to say - I take notice of hair loss all the time, but obviously, it's for a different reason, since I'm a recovered bald guy and work with people with hair loss all day long.

Best wishes,

Bill

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I must confess to being one of those who stare at other peoples hair,although its because as a hair loss sufferer myself, I am facinated to see what fate is in store for them and guess the level of loss.

Sad but true

Custard

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It's funny you mention this because when I used to notice the "eye drifters", they were all suffering hair loss themselves.

As I'd noted above, it seems odd to me that I noticed more eye drifters 20 years ago as a NW3. As a NW4a, I've not noticed this as much.

I agree with you all - I too take notice of hair loss. Not because it satisfies be that someone else shares the same pain as I do . But just I guess I'm just curios about the pattern/type of loss etc. That said, I don't do it while I am in conversation with them.

This reminds me of another annoyance - something I experienced the other day.
Someone will say "Hey you're going bald", or hey "you're losing your hair".
People stating the obvious.....man i'd love to rock bottom them.....if you can smell what i'm cookin..

I agree with nm76 a few years ago at a funeral I saw some family friends I hadn't seen in over 15 yrs. The first thing the guy did was point to my head and say "what happened here". Was quite an awkward moment for me as there really is not much I can come back with. I did feel like just smacking the guy in the jaw then as he is on the ground say " hey what happened to your jaw mother f@#$%^.

People dont often realise that their comments can leave lasting scars. Especially if you are already concerned about your hair loss. I can remember with tremendous accuracy every comment made to me about my hair loss from friends, family etc. No need to remind us or state the obvious we know we're losing our hair.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Take a chance:
I agree with nm76 a few years ago at a funeral I saw some family friends I hadn't seen in over 15 yrs. The first thing the guy did was point to my head and say "what happened here". Was quite an awkward moment for me as there really is not much I can come back with. I did feel like just smacking the guy in the jaw then as he is on the ground say " hey what happened to your jaw mother f@#$%^.

The jaw smacking comment made me chuckle, funny but very true!

Know where you are coming from as people say to me that I used to be good looking when I had hair and call me baldy; Drop the "Jaw", wack!!

People don't often realise that their comments can leave lasting scars or are just ignorant to the fact and think they are better!

This no different then when Elaine from Seinfeld met with the woman who had alarge goiter. She could barely keep from looking at it while talking to the woman.
Things that are not normal draw our eyes away from eye to eye contact.
So rather it be goiters or hairloss, we are screwed

Humans like symmetry.

if there is something that is not symmetrical such as a big nose, zit, or balding area our eyes are naturally attracted to it ..

As far as the comments, those are really uncalled for..

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