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IF YOU WANT A GOOD BIT OF ADVICE... DON'T LET YOUR SON BE RULED BY HIS LOOKS. MY MOTHER-IN-LAW MADE THAT MISTAKE WITH MY WONDERFUL HUBBY. HE STARTED TO LOSE HIS HAIR AT 16 SHE GOT HIM A HAIR PIECE THAT HAD HIM TOTALLY DEPRESSED BECAUSE IT WASN'T REAL THEN SHORTLY BEFORE WE MARRIED, JUST OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL, HE SHAVED HIS HEAD TO REMOVE IT. THEN SHORTLY AFTER WE MARRIED HE HAD HIS MOM CO-SIGN SO HE COULD HAVE TRASPLANTS DONE. WITH THAT HE HAD TO HAVE MORE AND THEN MORE AND NOW HE IS MORE DEPRESSED THAN EVER BECAUSE NOW, 15 YEARS LATER, THAT HE IS 35 AND STILL BALDING BUT NOW WITH SCARS,HE WOULD RATHER JUST SHAVE HIS HEAD AND HE CAN'T. WHY DO WE TRY TO SOLVE EVERY ISSUE BY A COVER UP RATHER THAN JUST ACCEPT WHAT WE HAVE BEEN GIVEN???? I COULD CARE LESS IF HE HAS HAIR OR NOT , I'M IN LOVE WITH HIM AND I DO BELIEVE WE PLACE TO MUCH VALUE ON SUPERFICIAL THINGS AND NOT WHATS IMPORTANT. LOOKING BACK IT WAS THE WORST THING HIS MOM COULD HAVE DONE WAS TRY TO HELP IN THE WAY SHE DID. TEACH HIM TO LOVE HIMSELF JUST THE WAY HE IS. VANITY IS WAY OVER RATED! SORRY IF I OFFENED ANY OF YOU OUT THERE BUT AS A WIFE ON THIS END OF IT IT'S NOT WORTH THE EFFERT PUT INTO TRYING TO LOOK DIFFERENT THAN WHAT YOU ARE, IF YOU CAN'T LOOK IN THE MIRROR IT SHOULD BECAUSE YOUR NOT A GOOD PERSON NOT BECAUSE OF HOW YOU THINK YOU SHOULD LOOK.
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bijous11, I really commend you on helping your son with his hair loss and his feelings of despair. Do whatever it takes to continue to make him feel better and better about his looks and continue to be there for him, and certainly don't tell him that looks don't matter and that they are superficial because you certainly will not get his or anyone else's agreement on that. Are you able to see about a prescription for Finesteride at this point to stablize his hair loss. It takes a few months to start working, and it has worked for me. That would be the first step for him, regardless if goes on to get the vealex system or not. Good luck and keep posting!
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Sadwife,
I read your post with great empathy. My history mirrors that of your husband as I also began losing hair in my teens except in my case I started out with transplants. Although I'm probably one of the lucky ones as far as the older techniques, I have very mixed feelings about my outcome. Now at the age of 44 and facing additional work to improve and refine that from my earlier proceedures. However as the early balding had an enormous negative impact on what otherwise were some of my best years, I would have been miserable throughout my 20's had I not addressed it. So I can truly relate to your husband's feelings and experience. Your comments about having multiple proceedures yet still being balding but now with scars, and wishing you could just shave your head but you can't strike a chord with me more that you can imagine. I know you understand that hair transplanation does absolutely nothing to prevent or stop continued hairloss. Your love and support of your husband is heartfelt and appreciated. I am also blessed to have someone who loves me unconditionally but can't understand why this bothers me so much. I absolutely agree that "what's inside is what is really important". With that said,it can also be much more fashionable and socially accepted to be bald today than it was years ago and some men look absolutely fabulous with a shaved head (Have you been watching "Dancing with the Stars" lately?) But not all of us can pull that off and the sad reality is that there are those in the world who won't give the "inside" a chance if they don't like what they see on the "outside". Your husband and I fortunately don't have to play the dating game anymore. But I find myself careerwise at a stage when I'm competing against people several years younger, more tech savy, etc. and I fear the hair issue is a limiting factor for me professionally. Yes, we should accept ourselves "as we are" but sometimes it is hard for us to internalize that. Phil |
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