Im a little more solid on my views on this, and I dont feel that it is through naiveity.

I like you, have told my girlfriend, my parents are aware, but nobody else. Not my sister, not my best friends, not anybody!

A wedding is undeniably a difficult subject, but with no specific date set, you have more room to maunovre. If it was I in your situation, I would insist on waiting. Apologies if this sounds selfish, that is not my intention. Im a very caring person and my girlfriend always comes first. But, I know my girlfriend would understand. This is possibly, the most important and special day of your life, why would you go into this feeling so uncomfortable. Im sure if your fiance felt as uncomfortable about something, and you knew how genuine her feelings were, if she asked you to wait 6/12 months, Im sure you would. I know I would.

Whilst you must be prepared for every possible outcome and reaction. There is a chance that in your head, you are making this out to be much worse than it really is. She may be totally accepting and understanding.

I know personally, appearance on my wedding day has been on my mind many times before regarding hairloss, and Im not yet engaged!

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My wife has been pretty great about it (but I did support her "eye job" and promise a "boob job" a little later.

When we first got married, I still had a loan payment of about $130 on my first transplant. Finally she broke down and asked me about it after a few months of marriage. But she was cool about it all through everything.

I'd try to get her to sympathize with your situation by asking her to think about how she'd feel about losing her hair, or a breast, etc. It's not really about looks so much as confidence. Hell, I hated being bald in front of my poker buddies and I don't have a homosexual bone in my body. So, it's not a vanity thing. Try and get her to see that, you might be pleasantly surprised.

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Thank you all for your responses, it's good to hear some feedback from people who have been in a similar situation. As for the wedding situation, I think if the only reason for delaying the wedding turns out to be financial (rather than emotional) then that'll be less of a problem for her. Both our parents will either understand about the delay (especially in these economic times) or if they are feeling really generous, cough up some cash to help pay.

Either way, I will try to pluck up the courage to bring the subject into conversation in the next few days and then see where I am from there. Thanks again

Some people have to look back at their wedding photos from say, the 70s and the 80s, and see themselves with ridiculous hairstyles or powder blue tuxes. in the grand scheme of things it really doesn't matter--i'velooked at my wedding photos maybe once in the last 5 years since getting married. buy yourself a nice tux, and spend the rest of the money on a great reception and/or honeymoon.

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RWS,

I think you are in trouble. Money and how you manage it is an important part of relationships. It can also be a source of stress and breakups.

Hair Transplant vs. wedding? Good luck. If you wear the pants, you may be able to force what you want, but probably not a good precedent.

You want her to buy into postponing your wedding so you can have 15K of surgery before you walk down the aisle. Imagine if she came to you and said, I want lipo, boobs, and lips before we get married. We need to postpone the wedding for a year.

What if it does not go as planned? HT seldom goes exactly as planned, especially with FUE.

I think you know that once you get married, the HT will get harder to justify.

This situation is difficult and unfortunate. Does anyone need hair?

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