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Old 04-17-2010, 12:00 PM
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Going bald is truly one of those rare and unique circumstances. There's nothing really like it:

- it's not like gaining weight, as you typically have control over that through exercise and diet

I can't really think of anything else that men or women have when they're young and then lose as they get older that is completely outside of their control. One day you have thick hair (when you're younger) and then suddenly (or gradually) it starts to disappear and impacts how you look and are viewed by others.

Plus, there's the natural taunting by guys hanging out together. It starts with a few eyes rolling up to your hair, then the comments start and it simply grows from there.

Having said that, the only thing really worse than going bald, is getting caught for trying to cover it up, whether it be through Hair Transplants, Wigs/Weaves, or creams/sprays/toppik, etc. as this just reinforces how insecure you are about your hairloss, which guys just tend to "feed" off of.

Slick - I feel really bad given the situation as you described, but I definitely agree with Emperor that going through facebook is not a good idea.

Just dial down the Dermatch as I can assure you getting comments that you are "thinning" is much better than getting comments that you are using "artificial means" to hide your thinning. Besides, your photos look good, so perhaps try styling your hair in a different way and just ignore their earlier comments that concentrated on dermatch or "makeup" use. Hang in there!

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Old 04-18-2010, 06:02 PM
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You have a lot of hair. Who cares about a balding crown - when people look at your face, they see your thick hair which appears all natural. Don't worry about it.

I am young in life but there is a good saying (can I call it that?) that I like to follow - it is the fact if you hang out with losers, you will become a loser and if you hang out with winners, you will become a winner. Sure your "winner" friends will also make fun of your crown occasionally, but they will have better things to do than to just bring you down all the time.
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Old 04-23-2010, 01:58 PM
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Why don't you just go see Dr. Umar and have him implant beard hair into your crown? Then you can just go for the short hair look. Some of Dr. Umar's results on youtube are straight up amazing.
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Old 06-20-2010, 11:51 PM
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I use dermmatch to hide some of my scarring..

Since it can be a bit chalky, some people think i dye my hair, and have asked..

To which I just say yes, and move on.

Unless they specifically know its dermmatch, tell them you are covering up some gray and move on.

if they continue to give you crap, just stop hanging with them

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Old 08-15-2012, 09:40 PM
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I feel for you man...a lot of people...mainly women and dudes lucky enough to never lose hair, don't know the utter distruction balsing does to our confidence...when I go to work in the office or have to wear a suit...obviously I can't wear a hat and I will barely even look people in the eye...and I will get out of the office asap...and put a hat on....dermmatch is the best thing for me so far...I just need to practice fading the hairline....today was a 2 1/2 hour dermmatch application (second time using it) so I'm doing it at night and touch it up in the morning before work. Let me know if you have any tips or tricks in applying dermmatch...thanks -Andy
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Old 08-16-2012, 03:37 AM
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Don't let this get you down.

Simple fact of life is that people who openly try and make you look bad in public are jealous about something you have, whether it be wealth, looks, personality, friends, job etc etc.

These people pick on the slightest thing to dry and get you to sink into the background, thus putting them into the limelight. The most powerful put down is one that can't be controlled, so the top one directed towards me is height (i'm only 5ft 7"), though hair loss is up there on the list of top put-downs for most guys.

Most of the time, other people will already be thinking that loud mouth is insensitive, attention seeking and malicious, so the best thing you can do is just smile and not show it hasn't bothered you.

If you shy into a corner, loud mouth has succeeded in breaking you down.

Think of it like this 'it's good to get peoples feedback, now i know that i am using too much concealer, so i'll tone it down. Loud mouth has done me a favor by a) Kindly informing me, where others would have just let me carry on without saying anything (also, often an attempt to make them look better) and b) Done me a favor by showing everybody else that he's a complete muppet.

People used to take the mick out of me for receding and trying to cover it up to try and put me down. I never showed them i was bothered about it as that would be them winning, i just shrugged it off and smiled, even though i was dying inside!

What it did was do my a favor by highlight to me that something does need to change and make me think about my options.
Thankfully one option for me was a HT.

I am now 10 weeks into recovery and already i managed to get them to eat there words. Now they are the quiet ones as i stand and smile

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Old 08-16-2012, 05:05 AM
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Hey,

Was in another thread and popped into this by mistake, but having read your post I couldnt help but feel your pain.. Hairloss just sucks..

Would there be any chance your mates were more interested slagging you because you dye your hair, rather than highlight your hairloss ? Vanity is supposed to be for girls right ?

You dont have to make a public announcement, Honestly your hair is a big deal for you, but its not that big a deal for everyone else.. This may just draw unneceaasry attention. Keep your dignity hold your head up and be yourself,,,

Us HL suffers are so paranoid, we think we are the only people with body issues, but can imagine your girlfriend going on facebook to tell everyone... "A few of you may have noticed already but I just want to tell everyone that I'm carrying a few extra pounds, I conseal them behide black clothes & hold your belly in pants" ha ha

Dont let HL consume you like I did... your 29, a billion males on this planet (including me) would give their right arms to be 29 again,,, Try enjoy life, hair or no hair !!!
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Get new friends.
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Old 08-20-2012, 04:06 PM
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Brother,

I had a similar friend who chastised me to my face, but mostly behind my back. Bottom line, get rid of your friend; I did.

Also, I use a 7mm guard(shortest I can go without scars showing) and dermatch. My hope is to eventually use a 3mm guard after getting SMP to cover up the damaged donor area.
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